(Closed) Mother in Law RANT! Blow your steam off here!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 4
Member
4525 posts
Honey bee

My FMIL is the reason my FH has trust issues. Can’t blame him, but it makes me SO mad. And she doesn’t think or act like she did anything wrong. 

There are lots of things I’d like to say to her but I can’t. 

 

(PS. You don’t have to invite people your FMIL verbally invites. She can explain herself later on if it comes up.)

Post # 5
Member
3358 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

lol at the taking over of the house because it wasn’t my ILs who did that, it was my own parents!! not to your extent though, and I’m so sorry you have to put up with it. it’s hair-pulling frustrating!!

Post # 6
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@FutureDrZ:  why are you obligaated to send invites out because of her big mouth? she blabbed… and she can take her big mouth and tell them she jumped the gun! why spend the money so she can “save face?”

OP – hang in there… 2 more days!!! once you’re officially in there you both can set boundaries and rules as a united front towards both sets of parents!

Post # 8
Member
3358 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

my DH and I both felt increasingly frustrated with my parents when they were staying for a week, so I know that if I really needed to sit them down and talk to them, he was going to be with me.

I don’t see how your FMIL is trying to be nice by telling you how to do things, and helpful by ruining your dog’s training at all.

Post # 9
Hostess
1427 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

yikes! good luck!! make sure to kindly remind him that you and him are going to be a united front soon!

Post # 10
Member
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

@FutureDrZ:  Just because she “told”people they were invited, doesn’t mean they are. If you are controlling the finances, and therefore the guest list, FI (and he needs to step up and do this, not you) needs to set her straight now. “Mom, you have XX people you can invite. If you want more, you either need to pay for them, or forget it.”

SHE’s the one who would “look bad,” not you.

Post # 11
Member
261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

you should chat with your hubby about presenting a united front.  they are bound to visit during your life time, you don’t want to be going through this ALL the time. Good luck!

Post # 12
Member
1044 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That’s ridiculous about the verbal invites. Don’t invite them and tell them you don’t have enough space/the budget won’t allow.

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