- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I am so frustrated. My to-be mother-in-law is making my wedding planning hell, and I have no idea what to do or how to handle it. When I vent to my fiance, he just feels like he is caught in between his mother and his girl. He freaks out and gets all stressed, cause he does not want to have to take sides.
Pretty much, my fiance and his mother are sooo close. She views him as his best friend, and he even bought a house right down the street from hers when he moved out. She calls him every morning and every night. She even gets offended when I cook dinner for him and we choose to eat dinner alone, rather than going over to her house. She feels that I have stolen away her son, and he no longer will love her the way he used to.
When my fiance and I first got engaged, I called her to tell her the big news. What did she do? She started crying and said “IT’S SO SAD!!!” We have been engaged for a month, and she has yet to tell her friends or make any sort of announcement. She keeps saying that it just has not sunk in yet, she is still in shock, etc. It’s horrible for us, because we are so excited and want her to share in our joy. She is not celebrating whatsoever, because she can’t get over the thought that her “son has found someone he loves more than her.”
On top of all of this, she has some pretty ridiculous opinions about the wedding, and will not be happy or satisfied until we take her advice. She insists we have a keg of beer rather than bottled, that we have a potluck dinner rather than a caterer, and that we use all paper and plastic utensils. She is absolutely against the idea of having a seating chart, and is very casual (and in my opinion, unclassy). Because I know she is already so distraught about her son getting married, I just want to make her happy and do what she asks. I JUST CANT BRING MYSELF TO HAVE A POTLUCK, BACKYARD BARBECUE TYPE WEDDING!!!
She has been so hard to deal with, so bossy, and so controlling. On top of that, she is emotional, and seems devastated. I don’t know what to do. Could anyone help me? Has anyone else experienced this? Let me know what I should do!!!!!!! Should I let her have her way in a couple areas of the wedding, just so that she feels better?