- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Ok so im having some drama lately with my future mother-in-law to be. I’ve been with my fiancee for 6 years now and I know my mother-in-law and how she is. She is completely trying to take over the wedding and I don’t want to sound like a bridezilla when I tell her I don’t want her help, so I just say ok maybe all the time. I just want to inform you that my fiancee and I and my father are paying for the wedding, yes his parents (the mother-in-law) are paying for the bar (and thats all we asked for!). But everytime I’m at there house she always has something new to show me that she wants to do for the wedding, for instance she went to a wedding two weeks ago and loved the dj. She is now pressuring me into getting this DJ and I do not want them, I’ve gone to a wedding before with them there and they were boring! I am not kidding you every time I go over she asks if I want them and she says “well they added me on facebook and are asking me if you want to use them”. She also really hurt my feelings the other day. I have the church booked already and I have for over a month now, and she just went to a wedding this past weekend at the church. She has the nerve to say to me, that church is tiny you can only fit this many people blah blah blah WHEN I KNOW IT CAN HOLD MORE! I’ve talked to the paster and he told me a round about number and we could set up chairs and etc. but she swears up and down it wont hold that many people. Why would she try and stress me out with this crap? She doesn’t like my colors, she is pressuring me to have her daughter in the wedding (thats another story all in itself! She is 5 years younger than me and my brother is not in the wedding either, oh and my fiancee has 2 other half-sisters!), she forced me to use the cateror that we got because they were the BEST…I mean whatever I know Im sounding like a child But how do I tell her to back off? I honestly dont bring up any wedding planning around her unless I have to, like who to invite from her family etc. but she just keeps making me feel horrible about the decisions im making and shes trying to plan MY fiancee and I’s wedding. I mean I could understand if she was paying but she is paying for the bar and I even told her to do whatever she wanted with the bar…I thought that would help =[ My Fiancee is a mama’s boy and doesnt have the heart to tell her to back down, he just tells me to ignore her and we can do what we want but its just upsetting me…any advice????!?!?