Post # 1
Hi fellow bees!
I’m new to weddingbee but I wanted somewhere I could find support without complaining to the fiance all the time!
My FH and I have recently taken a trip to Charleston, SC. While we were there, we fell in love with the city- old southern charm, beauty, history, it was AMAZING! 🙂 So, we came to the conclusion we wanted to get married out there.
Enter the problem, his mother has not found out yet about the plans. (we’re planning a june 2014 wedding) She has not been a huge fan with the idea of us getting married since the beginning, and now i’m afraid to tell her about this. I don’t even know how to mention the topic to her, she always acts like i’m irritating her when I bring it up. :/
Please help with any advice!
Post # 3
I think it’s awful that she makes you feel like you’re irritating her 🙁
Quite frankly, who cares what she thinks about the venue/location. She isn’t the one getting married 😉 But I do understand the anxiety behind the conversation. Maybe have your future hubby be the one to bring it up in conversation instead of you.. that might make her not so “irritated” if her SON is the one bringing it up in convo.. then if that goes good, have him be the one to tell her about Charleston. Might make it a little easier.
Post # 4
The best way is the quickest way, i.e “we have fallen in love with Charleston and are getting married there, we hope you will love it as much as we do”. The end. Don’t let people make you feel bad about YOUR wedding, if you and your FI are happy, thats all that matters. I hope it all works out
Post # 5
I would let FI bring it up to her and just be there as his support system. If she already finds you irritating it won’t help that “you are trying to take her baby away from getting married close to home” (which is the completely irrational thought she is going to have). I would have FI initiate the conversation.
And to complicate future pleans less with your FMIL, I would suggest keeping wedding talk to a minimum with her if she finds you irritating. She probably isn’t going to be very happy after this news.
Post # 6
@b.overmyer18: And it’s your responsibility to break the news to her because???
You FI should be the one to tell her. Let him handle it, you stay out of it… problem solved.
Post # 7
Thanks guys! 🙂
I think I’ll just sit there as the “support” and let him do all the talking!
I just worry too much!