- 4 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
More of a rant/what in the world would you do?
For starters, my soon to be MIL is off her rocker.
Sometimes she loves my other half, sometimes she is madder than all get out at him for nothing, and same goes with his sister. So it’s not surprise I am now getting to enjoy some of her.
Fiance had an out of state training for a couple of weeks and MIL was complaining about how lonely she was so I thought, “This could be a great bonding experience.” ….NOT. She came to our house where I made her a home cooked meal and she talked about his ex the entire time. It didn’t matter how I tried to change the topic, it was all about her. Granted, she wasn’t being spiteful like, “Oh I miss her.” Instead it was, “I hated her for reason A, B, C, and all the way to Z.” resulting in my learning alot about that relationship that I never cared to know about. So at the end of that visit I decided, of course I’ll continue to put up with her and her lack of social skills but I will not be hosting any more dinners.
She then texted me the other night:
“Maypearl (insert my real name)”
“R u okay?”
And within 60 seconds I replied saying I am and that my alarm goes off at 5:45 and I am heading to bed, chat with ya later. Followed by her:
“Hello? R u okay?”
We went through this 3 times and by the third time of her texts waking me up, I just didn’t reply because I already explained I was going to bed, early morning, I AM OKAY!
She then called my FI and told him, “She isn’t responding to anything, she’s in a bad mood and needs to cut it out.”
2 days later (which is now 2 days ago) we are in the garage cleaning out his sister’s stuff (who is living with us and has no motivation to get a life herself.. a whole other problem) and MIL shows up, storms into our garage, and says if we dare not answer her calls she will start showing up unannounced like this. She then see’s the sister’s stuff and says that it’s being ruined in the heat and needs to be in her room and starts moving stuff inside while the sister isn’t even here and we’re trying to move her out, not move her more in. She tells me, “Her shits being ruined because you haven’t made her comfortable.” Fiance tells her, “If she wanted it inside she would have taken it in but we are about to tell her she has got to move out so lets not take more stuff upstairs” to which his mother yells at him like a little boy! She’s mad we are not going to support sister anymore after we’ve given her almost 6 months to figure her life out and she hasn’t made any progress.
MIL FINALLY leaves, it got so bad I texted my sister and told her call me and save me, so I hid in my own bedroom closet until she left. MIL FaceBook messages me 30 minutes later, and I quote:
“You and I are going to sit down before this gets out of hand. I swear to never message/text you again after we sit down and hash this out. You are unbelieveable. Do you not realize I am the mother of the man you’re going to marry????”
And it continues…
FI was so close to calling her to put in her in her place and even bring up the sour dinner, the uncalled behavior in OUR garage, the unannounced arrival because we didn’t call her back in 30 minutes, the accusing me of not responding to her at all, the yelling at us like children after we have supported free of charge the sister for 6 months, the extremely inappropriate and way out of line FaceBook messages, etc. etc. etc.
I told FI I am not sitting alone in a room with her to discuss whatever and he said that’s fine, he never requested me too.
WHAT WOULD/DO YOU DO?!