(Closed) Mother in laws request for mother/son dance

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Perhaps since your parents are paying for the wedding, you could tell her to contact your parents for the DJ’s info. That way she will have to explain why, and what she is doing. It will still be a surprise for you and FH but your parents will know, if they want to make their own surprise too.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@kerensa:  +1 to this!

I’m with you on not wanting surprises at your wedding, I would not like that at all. Have your FI explain that if something special is done for her then something special needs to be done for your parents especially sense they are paying for it.  Good luck!!!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Sit down and  talk to her about it.  You should let her know that the location will NOT allow slideshows…. and be done with it.   

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kerensa:  +1. Your parents are paying for the wedding, they should know what’s going on. Then you get the info, and stick in your own surprise as well.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper

@sn0912:  Your fiance should be the one to talk to her. All he has to say is “The DJ already has our instructions for the night because we don’t want any surprises. I’m really looking forward to our special dance.”

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

No surprises and no slide show, a simple no, don’t let it drag. The nerve of her.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

 

No surprises and no slide show, a simple “no”, no need foe explanation and don’t let it drag. The nerve of her.

Post # 10
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Helper bee

@sn0912:  I agree, I would hate to have any surprises at my wedding. It sounds like she’s trying to shine extra attention in hereself – not necessarily to steal your spotlight but just so she can sit there and tell people “oh, I did this as a surprise for the kids, aren’t I such a great mother, look at me, blah blah blah” I don’t get why people can’t just be quiet and let a couple have their day. I would say no and suggest that she put on whatever puppet show she’s planning on a laptop at the rehearsal dinner. I think that might be a more appropriate venue for it anyway. I’d still make her tell you, at least, what will be happening and let the surprise be for your fiancé. Best of luck.

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Just tell her that she can tell you the song she wants played and you can relay that to the DJ directly. There is no reason she needs to talk to your DJ herself. If she presses the issues just tell her that you aren’t interested in surprises.

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