(Closed) MOTHER INLAW, she doesnt stop calling

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
107 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My FMIL’s totally like this. She calls 10x/day, to each of our cells, day or night. If we don’t answer she completely flips about how we don’t care about her and we never do anything for her, blah blah blah. The baby clothes thing she does too, but I figure we get to donate it all and get a nice tax deduction. Except lately she’s been accepting used clothes from her coworkers without even mentioning it to me, and then I’m the one stuck writing the stupid thank you cards for clothes I don’t want to people I’ve never met.

Ugh they can be so annoying, can’t they?

But man, if my FMIL purposely woke up my child, then snatched her and ran into another room, HELL would break loose. That is NOT okay. I would’ve taken my child and left without another word, how disrespectful and arrogant can you get. Being a grandparent is a privilege, not a right, and NO ONE snatches my child away from me. You’ve got way more patience than me lol.

Post # 4
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858 posts
Busy bee

what does your husband think? have you talked to him about it? this sounds like a case where he might need to have a talk with her about her behavior I would say try to ignore her but you cant do that when she just shows up at your house. does she not have friends or hobbies to keep her busy? I think with the clothes thing she  means well but waking the baby up hell no I would have flipped out

Post # 6
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141 posts
Blushing bee

You’ve got to set limits.  You just have to.  And you and your husband need to be on the same page about it and agree to the limits.  You can just say no.  You can say we’ll come for Mother’s Day and give you your birthday present then.  Having to drive 2 hours round trip alone is a reasonable excuse to decline a lot of offers.  If she protests, just say sorry, this is what we can do – we are busy too – we want to see you, but it’s a lot of driving with a baby and being pregnant.  Just say NO.

So put your foot down – you can control what you do!  If you keep giving in to her, she will keep wanting more.

Post # 8
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Most of what you posted I agree with, but I will say, it does seem unfair to try to make her put her birthday and mother’s day together in one event.  They are celebrating different things and it seems rather mean to gyp her of one of them.  But other than that minor point, I agree with the ladies here.  Stick to your guns and recruit your husband to get her to back off.

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