(Closed) Mother issues and Dress Shopping

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I’m so sorry to hear you and your mom are on the outs!  I’m glad you seem to like your FMIL enough to trust her opinion on dresses, though!  Rush fees tend to start around 4-5 months I believe, as long as you don’t need your dress before the end of May.  (I’ve seen some bees with bridal shots early enough that they had dresses for October weddings before mine came in for next weekend.)  If you like the dress that is NOT on sale better, I would recommend waiting and seeing what happens with your mom.  If you’re interested i waving the white flag first, waving a wedding dress would probably get her to respond.

 

Post # 4
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

I was going to say, maybe you could tell your mom that you need to order soon? That way you can get an idea of what she’s thinking. Sometimes the best thing to do is the most obvious. I was having an issue getting my mom to talk about my dress and so I finally told her that I had to order!

Post # 5
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

what Miss Star said – tell your mum its a time deadline and maybe she will like to join you.  i have many issues with my mother and it helps if we have something else to focus on to move forward

goodluck!

Post # 6
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161 posts
Blushing bee

I’d wait a little while. My daughter and I just bought her dress last week and it really was magical. I called it a TV moment. She cried. I cried. She’s a May 2010 bride too and they told us we could have waited til Sept or Oct to order and have been fine.  It’s hard being on the outs with your Mom..especially now. Meet her more than half way. You’ll be glad you did.

Post # 7
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110 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would wait too honestly. You have some time and I really don’t think this is something you want to do without your mom. I know you’re mad now, and justifiably probably, but it’s still one of those moments you can never get back. For a lot of girls it’s one of those rights of passage.
My mom is a total (lovable) pain in my ass but I know it would’ve really hurt her if I’d bought my wedding dress without her there. God, especially with my future MIL.

Post # 8
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1962 posts
Buzzing bee

I would probably do my best to talk to her.  Dress aside, mend the relationship.

Post # 9
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458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree with the other bees, too.  I would try and wait, but since you’re really crunched for time, maybe you could even ask your mother for her opinion on the two dresses.  I think not including your mom on the wedding dress would only do more damage.

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