wedding drama!!! here it is:
Wedding is only 65 peeps–close friends and immediate family, however I hardly speak to any of my aunts or uncles as they live several states up from me maybe once a yr if that. Having a hard time with the close friend guest list as a lot of these friends are mostly good timey friends that i see and talk to about once every couple months
Made my BF of 12 years the MOH and my eldest of two sisters got p’od and stated “i hope you are still friends with her in 20 yrs when you look back at your pictures and everyone is going to see her as an outsider.
Dad stated that if i invited his sister he would not attend the wedding. ALso stated Im i just a guest at this wedding? i guess that was his attempt at asking me if he was walking me down the aisle. MY take on that: I am in my early 30’s own a house have not lived home since i was 19. He has hardly been there for me or shown any affection or support. Do I really need him to “give me away”? I think they did that when they dropped me off at the train station many yrs ago.
My eldest sister threw me a shower and told me my mom would be buying the cake and asked what kind did i want. I said a specific one and she said that my mother would only be getting a chocolate/vanil one. Why ask in the first place then?
Mother has hardly asked about the wedding. much less called me.
Before we got engaged she stated that she was broke and just couldnt afford to help out. then went on to tell me and FI her money problems. after that she needed us to plan the wedding around her carribean vacation with her boyfriend since they would be in the same month. My favorite is when she complains of not having any money and then in another conversation she is out getting a massage or going gambling for the weekend with her girlfriends and taking pics in all new wardrobe. She claims she puts everything on CC’s.
She hardley talked to me at all at my shower and when i left some stuff she took it upon herself to take it to her house and when i told her i needed it sent to me asap she sent it thru her job and paid like 30 bucks to put it all in separate packages. Then complained at how much it was to send. She failed to send one of my items andwhen i asked if she could she stated that she just couldnt afford to as the last packages put her under. i offered to send her a check and she declined. I went on to tell her that i bought my hairpiece in the same convo and she said she wanted to send me a check for it because she wanted everyone to know she bought it. Ummm,,, I picked it out and paid for it and now she wants to send me a check that she cant afford??? I told her we were even then for her paying for the packages.
One month later she retires and moves down south she stops at my sisters house 4 hrs away from me and asks if i will be home so she can come visit me for the nite and leave early the next morning. I told her i had to work til 9 and no one would switch a shift with me and she texts me ok c u at the wedding. that was a week ago havent heard from her since.
In the meantime my sister sent me the package my mother left out and it got here only costing 1.90!
I just dont know what to think about all this as with the other bees i too am very saddened by her lack of interest. I feel that she could care less about me and if i was to get into a car accident she would find some reason that she couldnt be there for me. It is like a grieving process to accept that your mother is like that and it will not change. I just dont understand y people have kids if they are not going to love them for everything they are!
of course this would be all of my fault in her eyes.
Please advise sorry so long had to get it out!