Mother of Groom – Wearing Bright Red Dress

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
931 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

No i think it will be absolutely fine.

My MIL is wearing bright yellow with an open back and tummy (she’s pretty young at heart, she wants to show off her belly ring and back tattoo…i know, i know). At first i was a bit taken aback but now i don’t care too much.

Post # 4
566 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Will she be in many photos with your bridesmaids (I assume they are wearing pink)? I was worried about my MIL’s dress looking off in our photos, but since she wasn’t in many photos with our BMs it looked totally fine.

Post # 5
4812 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think she will look fine in the photos.  I think red and pink won’t clash, and she won’t be in many photos with your bridesmaids anyways.  I actually think it would like nice if there were black suits, your white dress, and her red one in family photos.

Post # 8
2670 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

@btw:  I think if you want to encourage her to buy a different dress, you could say something like, “I know you mentioned that maybe you were going to keep looking at dresses, so I wanted you know that I would LOVE to go shopping with you – that would be so fun!” But honestly I don’t think a red dress will be a problem at all.

Post # 9
8720 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hmmm at first I thought you were being a bit ridiculous BUT…that dress looks like something for the club. How long is it on her? How old is she? If something can be said to her without hurting her feelings then I think I would in this situation.

Post # 11
2992 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I really do not think it will be a problem at all.

Post # 12
8678 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I don’t see why it would be a problem.

Post # 13
1793 posts
Buzzing bee

It’s not a problem and if she loves it and it makes her feel great, it is the right dress!

Post # 14
10840 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@btw: I don’t see it as a problem. My MIL wore hot pink where I had red in the wedding Like you are with the pink. I think us brides can worry too much about colours. I like the dress she has chosen too.

Post # 15
1823 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011


Take a deep breath. This really isn’t a big deal. Your FMIL is an adult and can dress herself. Any decent photographer can process your photos so that the colors look fine, even if there’s a big contrast.

Post # 16
975 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Could be worse, my mom dressed in funeral black.  Even showed me weeks before “I’m thinking of wearing this!”.  “Ok mom, that looks fine” (Sure I thought it was ridiculous… but I gave up making sense of her long ago!).  She loves DH.  He humors her more than I ever could and I think he does it just so I can have time with dad who I’m super close to.  He does their yardwork, will go on little sleep to take mom to the hospital to see dad when he’s sick (MS) even tho she has a license.

Doesn’t sound like she will, but if she looks odd it’s on her not you!

As far as being flashy, some people just are.  My grandmother loved bright lipstick and nail polish.  When she died it was in her apartment and they found her because she hadn’t come to her part time job in two days (they asked for a wellness check, she was 76).  The funeral home painted her nails a gaudy color, so we all thought, to hide the discoloration of the nail beds… but it was also a gaudy color she’d have worn!  It was an old family funeral home so they knew her well enough I’m sure they figured it’d be fine… and it was… because she was flashy.  She’d show up in the inappropriate dress, dump water on someone at a reunion.. but you know what?  Those are the things we miss most!

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