Post # 1
My mom wants to wear the blouse top she wore at my sister’s wedding several years ago (it’s a traditional Filipino formal top). I told her she can provided that she pick another skirt to go with it.
My FMIL wants to wear the dress she wore at her daughter’s wedding three years ago. It’s a neutral light gold dress so it will go fine with our wedding colors. She hasn’t worn it since her daughter’s wedding (it cost her fortune to buy and alter, and it’s difficult to find dresses that really fit her body type.) So we told her she can wear the dress again if she wants to.
My fiance and I don’t mind that they will be wearing outfits that they’ve worn at their other daughters’ previous weddings. If they want to wear it, they look great and they won’t clash with the wedding party, it’s fine with us.
Apparently, other people think that’s a big no-no. They’re afraid people will notice (highly unlikely) and that people will confuse our wedding pictures with their daughters’ wedding photos (I can’t imagine two outfits making a big difference since our wedding colors are different from both weddings). They think it’s tacky. I’d like to say it doesn’t really matter and folks need to chill out, but I tend to let a lot of things fly that I probably shouldn’t. What do you think?
Post # 3
I think it’s great that they are able to wear something they already own!
My mom bought a rather pricey dress for my sister’s wedding (Dec 2008). She’s planning on wearing it again for my wedding so she can feel better about the money she spent on it lol. I don’t have a problem with it at all!
Post # 4
It’s histerical (and crazy) that people are concerned with getting the pictures confused with other weddings! Who even thinks about that?!?!
Post # 5
I’m pretty laid back about this stuff. As long as what they want to wear fits in with your plans, then why not?
When I got married the first time around, I was very aware that as much as it was *my* day, it was also a special day for our parents and close family members. Much of the time accomodating other’s request and preferences was pretty easy and it made things go much more smoothly.
It sounds like you don’t have a problem with what they want to wear, so don’t listen to naysayers.
Post # 6
What a silly thing to be concerned over. FI’s Mom got her dress at a thrift store! It doesn’t matter where it’s from or if it’s worn before. All that matters is that the person who’s wearing it looks and feels good, and it jives with the vibe of the wedding.
Post # 7
- Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas
I think it’s ridiculous that that would even be an issue for some people. I think it’s great if they can wear something they already own!
Post # 8
I never saw the dress my MIL was going to wear before the wedding. I saw it for the first time right before walking down the aisle. She said it was something she loved and she was comfortable with it – and I said great! Apparently, I was clueless like you too… But for what it’s worth, when I was walking down the aisle, it made no difference to me whatsoever what my MIL wore. I only looked at my husband.
Post # 9
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I’m thinking the different bride will help distinguish the pictures from the other weddings.
Seriously. Some people.
Post # 10
This is highly preferable! The other people are being silly. I think it’s ridiculous that people expect that everything the bride wears is new (shoes, jewelry) let alone the mothers!
Post # 11
My MIL asked me before the wedding if she could wear the same dress she wore at her and FIL’s anniversary party. I was surprised when she asked me, I mean like why would I care? I said she could wear whatever she liked and she looked great!
Post # 12
My mother is wearing a dress she wore to my nieces wedding and I don’t mind at all, as long as she’s happy and comfortable.
Post # 13
Don’t listen to those grumps, let the Mom’s rock their dresses! The only thing that would be tacky is if your sister re-wore her dress 😉