Post # 1
Soooo my Future Mother-In-Law kindly brought up that she needs to know what our wedding colors are so she can match her outfit for the wedding to our colors. She also said my mother HAS to wear something nice since she is the MOTB. I know my mom will just buy whatever she wants regardless of the color, but his Mom made it seem like the end of the world. any suggestions? Should she be matchy matchy?
Post # 3
I don’t think it really matter. My Future Mother-In-Law made a huge deal about this too. I wouldn’t match but it they want to pick a complimentary color since they will be in some pictures with the rest of the bridal party.
I am doing Tiffany Blue so my mother is wearing a royal blue and after my Future Mother-In-Law found that out she decided on Cranberry. Not really sure where cranberry fits in, but it’s her dress and it’ll make her happy.
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2010 - Marie Gabrielle, Dallas
My mom and Future Mother-In-Law have not bought anything yet (that I know of), but I don’t think they will match the wedding colors. His mom mentioned wearing purple, and our colors are green, cream and grey, and my mom hasn’t decided yet. I think it’s up to you!
Post # 5
The rules as I understand them is that the mothers can’t wear black (b/c it’s for mourning), can’t wear white (for the bride), and shouldn’t clash with the wedding colors. They don’t need to match the colors – in fact some people say they don’t want the mothers looking like they’re trying to look like the bridesmaids! But they should coordinate with the colors, since they’ll be in pictures with the wedding party.
Post # 6
No, i think that’s very old school….i know my mom asked about matching, too! apparenlty that was the thing. But technically if you’re going to get like that, the groom’s mom should wear drabby beige, too =]. So, no, they don’t have to match AT ALL. Wear what looks good, in whatever color. As long as it ain’t white =] Teehee
Post # 7
I think they just should be complimentary to the BMs/wedding colors. For example, our wedding colors are watermelon and grass green and my mom is wearing a “clover” color for her dress.
Also, tradition dictates that MOB gets to pick her color first.
Post # 8
i’ve heard it both ways, some people want the moms to match and some people don’t. i wouldn’t care either way. if you do, i would just tell her, or even go shopping with her so you can lead her in the right direction.
Post # 9
My Future Mother-In-Law really wants to match too, as does my stepmother. My biological mother doesn’t seem to care that much, but she always wears navy no matter where we are going anyway. I know my Future Mother-In-Law is really excited about going shopping for a “mother’s” dress with me and I have been having fun shopping with her.
Post # 10
My Future Mother-In-Law really wanted to match the colors too. I think the only thing you really want to do is make sure that they don’t wear orange when the colors are red or something like that.
Post # 11
I think the MOB and Future Mother-In-Law should wear whatever they are comfortable in and the color shouldn’t really matter IMO.
Post # 12
I asked them not to match the wedding colors. And they complied…after my Future Mother-In-Law complained and bought a silver/white dress that I just about had a heart attack over.
Post # 13
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
I asked them to wear something that complements the wedding colors (so they don’t clash in pictures), but gave them pretty much free reign otherwise. I would tell your Future Mother-In-Law your colors and let her do what she wants with the color of her dress (because you can pretty much guarantee you won’t win a fight with a mother over the color of her dress ;), and let your mom do whatever she wants.
Post # 14
I think it’s really nice that your Future Mother-In-Law checked with you. She can match or coordinate if that gives her some helpful direction, or go with whatever she wants, as long as you’re ok with it. I’m sure she’d love to go shopping with you (maybe with your mom too) so she feels included in things and so you can give the final thumbs up or thumbs down to anything she’s looking at.
Post # 15
UGH! My Mom is convinced that if she wears a long dress, my Future Mother-In-Law has to wear a long dress. If she wears a shorter one, so does my Future Mother-In-Law. I just want them to find a dress that they feel beautiful in. Where do they come up with these rules?