Post # 1
Is it just me or do weddings drive mothers completely out of their minds? My mom, bless her heart, has been the most uncooperative human being from the moment I got engaged. She wanted me to have the ceremony at our family church and said if I didn’t, it was a sin. She wanted to plan my bridal shower and got mad when I said my bridesmaids were doing it. So, my maid of honor tried to include her in the planning and she wouldn’t return emails or phone calls. She MISSED the exact same bridal shower she was trying to plan because she took a job in another state. She hates my mother in law because she said she’s manipulative and fake. Meanwhile, the same woman she hates is kind, supportive and helpful. I let my mother in law throw me a lingerie shower for her close friends and relatives because a lot of them weren’t at my first one. My mom called me hollering and screaming that “she no longer supports this marriage” and “wants nothing to do with us.”
She just told me today that she doesn’t know if she’s be able to make the rehearsal dinner because she accepted ANOTHER new job and starts the week of the wedding. This entire ordeal has been so disheartening. She won’t reason with me and any time I try to say how I feel or ask her to cooperate, she says “I’m your mother. I don’t have to do anything.” Am I alone? She’s not paying for anything, but I really wish i had her support. Any advice or words of encouragment would be helpful.
Post # 3
I’m a MOB. Has she always been like this or is this something totally new?
Post # 4
@hermom: We’ve had issues on and off over the years, but it’s usually just normal mom/daughter drama. Since I’ve gotten engaged she has turned into a monster of the bride! She hates his family and always compares us to them. I simply don’t understand it. Ugh.
Post # 5
@lovetobeehappy: Ugh, I’m so sorry this is happening to you!
My mom is making me insane as well. She can’t financially contribute to the wedding, which is toooootally fine, but she offered to pay for and plan a casual family get-together we’re having a week after our intimate wedding ceremony.
I helped her find a venue that she could get for $50 for the whole day, but she has spent weeks complaining vaguely about it and looking at other venues. She won’t say what’s WRONG with it, but she keeps going and visiting sites that cost $1500+ for the whole day (or some sites that she would have to rent for the entire weekend! WTF!). She won’t take any of my suggestions re: food, either, but constantly tells me that “it’s impossible” to find any food. Also, last week she asked me if I wanted her to get a band?! But then she’ll complain about how she can’t do things she wants because she’s “saving for her daughter’s wedding.” She just LOVES to be a victim. I am seriously ready to just say, “Sorry, never mind, we appreciate your offer to help, but NO THANKS.”
Also, today she freaked out at me because I won’t give her sisters my Facebook password so that they can look at my engagement pictures online. None of them have Facebooks and refuse to create them, but *I’m* in the wrong for not wanting all of them to have my FB password. ARGH!
Lol, thanks for creating this thread so I could vent. And I sincerely hope your mama issues get better! I’m keeping my fingers crossed that mine won’t be a nutball on the day of the wedding, but I’m not expecting too much!