Post # 1
I have been asked to be maid of honor at my friends wedding. I am hoping to get advice from brides or former bridesmaids. I’ve known the bride since highschool. I was very excited to be part of her wedding.
I don’t know why but the mother of the bride HATES me. The Mother of the Bride jumped down my throat saying I was taking over the wedding planning. I was only asked to be MoH TWO weeks ago. The bride asked if I would bring my wedding book over so she could get ideas. This and asking if I may come when she and her mother shop for the wedding dress are all I have done. Apparently I’m trying to make this my wedding and that she told me it was rude of me to suggest I come dress shopping, that is only for the bride and her mother.
How do I handle this? She’s really being mean and rude. I want to support my friend but if her mother is going to be this way for the entire process I am worried. That little episode alone almost brought me to tears.
Please if anyone has any suggestions or advice I would really appreciate it.
Post # 3
@clc42: You’re doing what your friend asks of you? Keep it at that. And if MOB comes at you again, you just tell her the Maid/Matron of Honor is the brides support, you are there to support her in any way the bride deems fit. Also, just tell her bride asked you to come, asked you for your help, and you are just being supportive by doing so.
MOB sounds a little nuts. Maybe she is one of those mothers who has always dreamt of her daughters wedding and doesn’t want you there so she can sway her daughter the way that SHE wants to. Thats what I would assume anyway. The parental-child influence is totally unfair and she will use it if bride has no one around to back her up.
To be honest if this was happening to be or my best friend (both brides, both in bridal parties) we would talk to eachother. But I don’t know the nature of your relationship and wether or not thats a viable option for you 🙂
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - Garden
Are you a non-confrontational person? If it happens again I would ask why she has this opinion of you and put her in the right. If my mum did that to my Maid/Matron of Honor I’d tell her to pull her head in.