- 5 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
My mother lost about 30 lbs over the past half a year or so, but she wanted to lose about double that by the time she went dress shopping for my wedding. She had been putting off dress shopping and I knew it was a combination of being disappointed in her weight loss efforts and also the prospect of seeing my father at my wedding for the first time in over 15 years.
I think she had put so much pressure on herself to lose weight that she almost sabotaged herself. She was doing really well and I’m very proud of what she’s done so far, but when we went dress shopping on Saturday, she cried over how she looked. She was so frustrated that she hadn’t hit her goals and that she was still having to try on size 14s and 16s. In the end, we picked a beautiful gown for her that she felt comfortable in at her current weight, because in case she didn’t lose any more, she would still be able to wear it on the day of.
We’re both on Weight Watchers together. I try to motivate her in that way, but we don’t live together and my style is a bit different from hers. I’ve lost 20 lbs over the past 5 months and I’m only 8 lbs away from my goal, but I don’t deprive myself too much at social gatherings – I just keep my eating in check at home. When we’re together it’s usually at these gatherings, so I’m thinking maybe for the next few months, instead of indulging as I normally would, I should try to help her make healthier choices and lead by example.
I’m not claiming to be an expert, but it’s always harder when you’re the only one not indulging, I think. As her Christmas gift, I want to take her shopping for a new bra that fits her well. When we were trying on dresses, it was apparent how awful her bras fit and I think it would make a huge difference for her.
What else can I do? I want her to be happy – she deserves it. I know she is working hard, but I want to try to make it a little easier for her, if I can.