Mother of the Bride Shower Gift???

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
  • poll: Amount???
    $100 : (3 votes)
    60 %
    $200 : (1 votes)
    20 %
    $300 : (1 votes)
    20 %
    $400 : (0 votes)
    $500 : (0 votes)
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  • Post # 3
    232 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    That’s certainly very generous of the bridesmaids to host such a lavish shower.  But I don’t see why the cost of the shower would determine how much the MOB, or any other guest, spends on a shower gift.

    Post # 5
    6173 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @wedwedwed123:  i’m not sure how one has to do with the other.


     what if BMs are all doctor and lawyers and can afford that, but MOB is on a fixed income?

    what if MOB is paying for the entire wedding? 

    there are too many different scenarios and one doesn’t have to do with the other, the BMs chose to spend that.


    Post # 6
    42182 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @wedwedwed123:  You can certainly be generous to your daughter, but I would buy something that fits in with what other people are gifting for the shower. It might look a little silly and attention grabbing if you gifted her with a Miele Built in Espresso Staion when the other guests were giving coffee mugs.

    You can always give them more extravagent gifts or a cheque in private .

    Post # 9
    42182 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @wedwedwed123:  Are you the bride and not happy with the gift from your Mom? Clearly you are not asking for advice as the shower as already happened.

    Post # 11
    11300 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Yeah, I’m not seeing what the bridesmaids spent and what the MOB spends on a gift  have to do with one another?

    Post # 12
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @wedwedwed123:  I assume you are unhappy with how much your mother gave you. Just because she spent 1000 at your brother’s baby shower doesn’t mean she needs to give you 1000 dollars for your wedding because you have treated her lavishly. Yes, you were generous, but you shouldn’t have expected anything in return by doing all that.

    By the way, I would consider $150 in gifts very generous.

    Post # 13
    185 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I can maybe comprehend you being jealous of the fact that your mother spent more on your brother than she did on you, which is a bit silly I think but at least makes some sense, but what does the amount that the bridesmaids spend on your shower have anything to do with your mother’s shower gift to you? You mentioned that the average gift was $100 and that she spent $150, that’s considerably more than the average gift so I’m not sure what the issue is?

    Post # 15
    3668 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    The highest price ANYTHING I got at either of my bridal showers was $150. And it was from my mom.

    Are you talking about your own bridal shower here? I think you need to stop seeing dollar signs and be glad that your friends and family hosted and attended a wonderful party honoring you.

    Also, a $2800 bridal shower? That’s bananas. I’m awfully glad I wasn’t a bridesmaid for that wedding.

    Post # 16
    907 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @wedwedwed123 I am really confused as to what you are asking? Every bride and MOB situation is differnt. My mom threw my wedding, wouldn’t let my bridesmaids give any money for the shower except for them bringning an app and 2 bottles of wine (even though the invite said they were throwing it), and still surprised me with my wedding shoes (Christian Louboutin’s) and pretty lingerie as a shower gift.

    I also have a friend whose bridesmaids paid for the whole shower and her mother gave the bride a pasta pot.

    This is an issue that only you can resolve by talking to your mom! Good luck!

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