Post # 1
My mom recently bought a black dress for my brother’s wedding and she really loves it. However, when she mentioned it to my brother, he and his fiance were upset because “black is for a funeral”. Now my mom is upset and stressed about finding a new dress because she has a very hard time finding ones that she likes and look good.
To give a little background, my mom originally asked his fiance if there was any color she should/shouldn’t wear and her response was “anything but red”, and “it didn’t really matter because she wouldn’t be in that many pictures anyway.” Also, this dress is really not one you would wear for a funeral. It’s a cocktail dress.
So I want to know if you think black really is inappropriate for the mother of the groom and she should find a new dress, or if it’s fine and she should wear what she bought?
Thanks for your help!
Post # 3
I don’t really like black for a wedding but that is a personal preference. I don’t think there is anything wrong with wearing a black cocktail dress if that is what she wants. I’m sure no one will confuse it with a dress that would be worn to a funeral.
Post # 4
I think it depends on the person. She should have been a little more specific with your mom!
Post # 5
I’m doing black and white, so black would be fine with me…..but if the FI-FI says no, then the answer is no.
Post # 6
That’s really weird, if they didn’t want her to wear black they should’ve said so. I mean my Future Mother-In-Law asked me what she should wear and I told her to wear black. Also, I have a slight problem with the “it didn’t really matter because she wouldn’t be in that many pictures anyway” comment I mean, seriously? Who would even think of saying something like that to someone…”oh it doesn’t matter what you wear since you’re not worthy of being in the pictures” maybe that’s just a personal problem with me.
Post # 7
yeah that’s crappy. my Future Mother-In-Law asked me and i said whatever she wants. i think it is so weird that there are all of these guidelines with what the moms wear.. i mean the main rule is don’t wear white, right?? other than that, why does anyone care? black i think is always a classy route – plus as i have found out people love it because it is most figure flattering if that is an issue as well.
Post # 8
personally i don’t like black for weddings, but it doesn’t matter what i like, it’s about what the bride and groom like. and if they’re unhappy about it i’d just go get another dress.
Post # 9
I told mine to either wear black or slate blue and since slate blue is hard to find, she’ll probably wear black. My bridesmaids are in black chiffon, my mom is in black lace, and my step-mom is in a beaded black jacket. Nothing funeraly, just classic.
That being said, one of my bridesmaids tried to go rogue on my this week and incorporated the wrong shade of blue into her dress without talking to me first and I about started crying. So your mom might wanna go along with what your Future Sister-In-Law is saying because she’s probably stressed out and needs a break not an arguement.
Post # 10
I definitely don’t think she should be upset. She should have specified.
Black to me says sophisticated. Now, if it were a dress that were up to her neck, long sleeved and down to her ankles it might be a little much and funeral-y. But I think a black cocktail dress is great.
BUT regardless apparently she is upset, so if it is a problem, I would find another dress just to keep the peace and appease the bride on her wedding day. Maybe look for something that goes along with their colors?
Post # 11
I dont understand why people think black is inappropriate for a weddding. I have always thought that a LBD is a perfect thing to wear to a wedding! I would say if your mom is able to return the dress and get a full refund then fine, but if not then have her wear the dress – it will not be the end of the world!
Post # 12
I don’t really like black for a wedding, but they shuld have been more specific when it was asked.
Post # 13
I really hate black dresses at a wedding, so I see where they’re coming from. Maybe they assumed that she wouldn’t choose black or white, so just said “no red” since that would be traditionally an okay color? They should have specified, and “it doesn’t matter” is really rude, but she should switch to a color. But a black cocktail dress always comes in handy!
Post # 14
I dont think wearing a black cocktail dress should be an issue, espcecially if its an after five wedding.
A lot of my girlfriend are wearing blakc to my 7:30 wedding in march. My girifriends mother in law wore black to her wedding and looked amazing!
Tell mom not to worry about it.
Post # 15
I would not wear black for a wedding- although it is slimming and in some cases sexy… the color black is too laden with symbolism to wear to a wedding. It would be worth the extra effort to find a nice dress in a deep marine or hunter green shade, which will have no one wondering about the color choices.
Post # 16
MY Future Mother-In-Law is wearing black, because it’s one of my colors. I don’t think there is anyhting wrong with black. it’s fine…
but, if the bride is gonna be pissed, it’s not worth it.