Mother of the groom nasty

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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6644 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why can’t the mothers wear the same dress color? I don’t see a huge deal on that.  If they a different styles no one is really going to care other than maybe yourself.

She honestly doesn’t sound that bad, you probably are overreacting

Post # 3
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1662 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Spoonieg:  That doesn’t sound too awful. It’ll probably be pretty cute if the moms are coordinated! Is she mean at other times?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Sassygrn:  agreed, at my brother-in-law’s wedding all three moms (bride, groom & groom’s step) wore a metallic gray color. The dresses were different styles and different shades but I thought it was a nice touch. I don’t think it was planned either!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I see why some people can’t get along. These are all just ANNOYING things not really her being a horrible person. Life is too short to be so bothered by little things. 

Post # 6
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You asked them to stay in another town before the wedding? That’s kind of nuts. 

None of these things would make me consider this woman “nasty”.

Post # 7
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442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Also, why can’t you see your fiance the night before the wedding? Isn’t that typically the rehearsal dinner? I thought the superstition was the day of the actual wedding.

Post # 8
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6505 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Meh… None of these seem nasty. Surely the town is large enough that you won’t run into each other? Or if it’s really that big of a real than coordinate- asking them to stay the next town over seems rather rude. And who cares if the moms wear the same color? “I can’t believe she would do this to me” seems like a bit of an overreaction.

 

Post # 9
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8705 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you’re overreacting by a landslide. Asking them to stay in an entirely different town? That’s ridiculous. Who cares if they wear the same color? It’s really not as big of a deal as you’re making it out to be.

<br />ETA: I don’t think your MIL is the nasty one here.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I was really worried about what people would wear on my wedding day, but honestly it does not matter. My colors were white, navy and pale yellow and my MIL wore a canary yellow dress…I was terrified of what the pictures would look like…then I saw the pics, and everything was completely fine. I was totally overthinking it, and you are too. Don’t worry, I’m not saying that in a negative way, I just know how huge everything seems when you’re planning a wedding.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper

It sounds to me like you are being equally, if not more, difficult than your FMIL.

Post # 13
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5267 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Can’t see the “spiteful” and “horrible” here, at least not from the FMIL.

Post # 14
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499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Wow, you’re totally going nuts over non-issues.  Dusty pink is a color, not a style or cut.  It has some variance.  Sounds like she made a mistake.  Asking her to return a dress was over the top.  You need to apologize.  Even if they wore the exact same dress, SO WHAT?  They are comfortable.

As for the hotel.  Really?  You banished them to another TOWN?  Thats repulsive.

And the rest is whining about them having feelings.  Really?  They didn’t say you were a horrible human being, they struggled with the idea of a wedding being child free.  Guess what?  Many people do struggle with that, especally older people and those who love little kids.  And while it was a bit silly for them to expect their work friends to come, they want to show you off, be happy, not a miserable and whiny.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Spoonieg:  I think you are going to need to be a little more understanding or you are going to have a lifetime of friction with them. You are placing the foundation for this now, do you really want constant drama?

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