Post # 1
Hi, since we got engaged last year my inlaws have been nothing but trouble! We booked our wedding for nov 2014. We anounced it will be a child free wedding as there are just too many, they moaned about that. then they wanted 2work friends we said no. who my fiancé and I have never met they complained about that too. My family and I are staying the night before the wedding as soon as I said this they wanted to stay I ask if they wouldn’t mind staying the next town as I don’t want to bump in2 my fiancé the night before they respected that but did kick up a fuss. I told his mum my mother has bought a dusty pink dress to wear, she then phones up my fiancé a week later to say she is wearing a dusty pink dress I can’t believe she would do this to me I asked nicely if she could go for another colour she said no, so my poor mum said don’t worry I’ll get another dress. I think she is spiteful I can’t get over this one they have been horrible from day one!has any one else had this sort of problem? Thank u
Post # 2
Why can’t the mothers wear the same dress color? I don’t see a huge deal on that. If they a different styles no one is really going to care other than maybe yourself.
She honestly doesn’t sound that bad, you probably are overreacting
Post # 3
Spoonieg: That doesn’t sound too awful. It’ll probably be pretty cute if the moms are coordinated! Is she mean at other times?
Post # 4
Sassygrn: agreed, at my brother-in-law’s wedding all three moms (bride, groom & groom’s step) wore a metallic gray color. The dresses were different styles and different shades but I thought it was a nice touch. I don’t think it was planned either!
Post # 5
I see why some people can’t get along. These are all just ANNOYING things not really her being a horrible person. Life is too short to be so bothered by little things.
Post # 6
You asked them to stay in another town before the wedding? That’s kind of nuts.
None of these things would make me consider this woman “nasty”.
Post # 7
Also, why can’t you see your fiance the night before the wedding? Isn’t that typically the rehearsal dinner? I thought the superstition was the day of the actual wedding.
Post # 8
Meh… None of these seem nasty. Surely the town is large enough that you won’t run into each other? Or if it’s really that big of a real than coordinate- asking them to stay the next town over seems rather rude. And who cares if the moms wear the same color? “I can’t believe she would do this to me” seems like a bit of an overreaction.
Post # 9
I think you’re overreacting by a landslide. Asking them to stay in an entirely different town? That’s ridiculous. Who cares if they wear the same color? It’s really not as big of a deal as you’re making it out to be.
<br />ETA: I don’t think your MIL is the nasty one here.
Post # 10
Ok that’s interesting to hear maybe I’m being hot headed! I just thought the mothers should compliment but not be the same but you all think it shall be ok. The hotel thing is there only the hotel we staying in that town the wedding is in a different town and they are staying in a town equally as near. Thank u
Post # 11
I was really worried about what people would wear on my wedding day, but honestly it does not matter. My colors were white, navy and pale yellow and my MIL wore a canary yellow dress…I was terrified of what the pictures would look like…then I saw the pics, and everything was completely fine. I was totally overthinking it, and you are too. Don’t worry, I’m not saying that in a negative way, I just know how huge everything seems when you’re planning a wedding.
Post # 12
It sounds to me like you are being equally, if not more, difficult than your FMIL.
Post # 13
- Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY
Can’t see the “spiteful” and “horrible” here, at least not from the FMIL.
Post # 14
Wow, you’re totally going nuts over non-issues. Dusty pink is a color, not a style or cut. It has some variance. Sounds like she made a mistake. Asking her to return a dress was over the top. You need to apologize. Even if they wore the exact same dress, SO WHAT? They are comfortable.
As for the hotel. Really? You banished them to another TOWN? Thats repulsive.
And the rest is whining about them having feelings. Really? They didn’t say you were a horrible human being, they struggled with the idea of a wedding being child free. Guess what? Many people do struggle with that, especally older people and those who love little kids. And while it was a bit silly for them to expect their work friends to come, they want to show you off, be happy, not a miserable and whiny.
Post # 15
Spoonieg: I think you are going to need to be a little more understanding or you are going to have a lifetime of friction with them. You are placing the foundation for this now, do you really want constant drama?