Post # 1
There are a lot of little details I am trying to work out at the moment 😛 I was wondering does the Mother of the Groom meet with the bridesmaids, bride and Mother of the Bride to ride to the ceremony site? Or would she be at the ceremony site with the groom?
I am getting my hair done with my mother and some bridesmaids, we are then meeting at the reception venue. Should I ask the Mother of the Groom to meet us there as well? Or should she be with my Fiance and ride out to the ceremony with him?
Any suggestions or thoughts? She hasn’t really been really into the wedding thing, so I just don’t know how to go about asking. She wouldn’t even buy a Mother’s dress, she said she would just wear something she alreayd owns.
So confused 🙁
Post # 3
You can do whatever you want. My MIL was the one who was at the ceremony with me beforehand because she knew how to bustle my dress. And don’t feel bad that she didn’t buy a dress, she doesn’t have to wear a special dress as a mother, just a dress that makes her feel good!
Post # 4
I have heard of it being done many ways. Some girls are really close with their future MILs, so they want them there, whereas others maybe have a rough relationship or simply don’t know each other as well.
It sounds like she isn’t too into the whole wedding thing anyways, so that takes some pressure off because she probably doesn’t have any preconceived notions about what you SHOULD do. Do you want her there, or would you rather have the private time with your BMs and mom? Just make a decision and be confident in it. 🙂
Post # 5
She just really hasn’t participated at all, but I want her to. She didn’t even want to come to the shower. I want her to be there with us. I am going to invite her, but how do I do so without making it SEEM like she has to? And more of an option. Which is what we did for the dress. We told her my mother got one and she is welcome to come along and try some on if she’d like.
Its been really hard because she doesn’t want to be mentioned or recognized at all and my FI’s father isnt coming so the wedding thus far has seemed to much like MY wedding, not OUR wedding. My family paid for everything, planned everything and did everything which is fine I don’t except his family to do anything, but at least SOMETHING, like be a part of the recieving line and be announced at the reception.
I should add that she is really happy for us, but him and I just come from 2 different family types. I have a HUGE and might I add loud Italian family and he only talks to about 5 family members total and they are all very shy and keep to themselves. I just hate making people feel uncomfortable, but I just feel like everyone will notice that it is only my family and friends participating and none of his. I have already had some family members ask if he had family because they aren’t really ever around and no one hears from them 🙁
Post # 6
Are you not very close to her? Maybe you could try spending some time alone with her? She might feel awkward being out with you and your mom and being the third wheel.
Post # 7
We get along and I love her very much. But she is very very very very shy. She did meet my mother. She came cake tasting with my FI, my mother and I. And they got along fine. I guess she just doesn’t really believe in big weddings and wedding traditions. She is very eccentric and a little bitter about weddings since she had 2 bad marriages. She is a lot like my FI in terms of personaility, very shy and quiet. I am going to invite her, but if she doesnt want to come and hang out with us before the ceremony she doesnt have to. That way there is no pressure and it is up to her. I don’t even think she is going to participate in photos. I might have my FI talk to her this week about the wedding and gauge her feelings on things.
Post # 8
I think you’ve done all you can to make her feel comfortable; you sound like you’re being very understanding and flexible about the situation. Just have your fiance talk with her and go with the flow with whatever she decides. It seems like she supports you guys, just in her own way.
Post # 9
My MIL wanted to spend the morning with her son, so she stayed with him the whole time and arrived with the groom/groomsmen and her husband.
It’s totally up to you/her