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Hello All

My issues all started about 2 months ago, when my FI and I set a date (June 12, 2010 in Texas, where I'm originally from) I called my mother and she said that I needed to change it because it was too close to my grandfather's birthday(June 11). 

So, after a couple of weeks of cussin' and discussin' my FI and I decided to get married January 16, 2010 in New Mexico (where we currently reside and met).  My mom went CRAZY!!!  She started saying that my FI is overcontrolling and looks at me as his possession, when I have him whipped (so says his family, and all of our friends).  She doesn't understand why we aren't getting married in Texas (by the way my FI is from Pittsburgh, PA).  Her exact words: "It is a major inconvenience on MY FAMILY having to drive that far, and it's not fair to make MY FAMILY travel that far to see you get married."

So, I have picked out the location and photographer, and am trying to include her as much as possible.  On Monday night, I tried to discuss colors and possible centerpieces.  She only heard what she was saying.  Yesterday, I e-mailed her some of my ideas, and I received an e-mail this morning saying it wasn't what "WE" had discussed.

Just so everyone knows, this isn't the whole situation, but a VERY condenced version.  My FI family is super excited about the wedding, and can't wait.

Is anyone else having issues with their moms or FMIL?  Were your moms cool and then went NUTS?

We always got along really well, agreed on most things, and she WAS excited about the wedding until we actually started planning it.