Mother problems

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2803 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

You may have to have a complete sit down with her.  Ask her specifically why she doesn’t want you to get married.  Be pretty point blank with her.  If it’s age, explain to her why the decision was made now instead of waiting.  You may, though, uncover some issue that you don’t expect. 

Be parepared for this talk to end in that you will be doing most of your wedding planning without her.  I know that doesn’t sound like fun, as sharing this experience with my mom is important to me too.   At the same time, if she is going to make you depressed and guilty over it, that isn’t fair to your happieness either.

Post # 4
6173 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i agree with PP.  have a talk with her.  ask her.  that is the only way you will know.

calmly explain your side of things.  don’t be accusatory.

Post # 5
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@annb9:  My mom was pretty “whatever you want” too, but without the snarkiness or eye rolling. My mom just had no interest picking out wedding stuff or getting excited. She finally started to get excited about 3 months out, so perhpas its just too far in the future for your mom to get excited for right now.

I know you and your mom are close, but perhaps, since you are paying, involve her as little as possible right now and a year out from the wedding involve her if she wants to be.

Post # 7
1259 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@annb9:  Yeah definately have a nice long talk with her. Explain that this is what you really want and it is going to happen. Tell her how much you want her support and her recent behaviour is making things difficult. At the end of the day this is your decision and it would mean alot for you to have her support and help. Good luck.

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