Post # 1
My mother passed away suddenly on December 15th and we did everything together. We went together to pick out my wedding dress. We shopped weekly for the last year and a half for the wedding. She was my best friend and I miss her terribly. I am unsure of how to handle the invitations for her close friends. I am close with some of them and I am inviting them for sure but what should I do about the remainder of her friends that I do not know personally. I may have met them once or twice but I would not know them if I seen them out in public. I feel bad because I know that my mother spoke with them about the wedding and she was looking forward to inviting them. With my mother gone now I do not know what to do. I would appriciate any suggestions on this delicate subject. I do not want to hurt anyones feelings and certainly do not want to make them feel uncomfotable coming to an event and not knowing anyone. HELP!!!
Post # 3
If your mom was planning on inviting them and there isn’t a $$ or space issue, then invite them. I bet your mom’s friends know eachother and would love to come to see their friend’s beautiful daughter on this special day.
Post # 4
I am sorry for your loss. We are never ready to say goodbye to our Mom. If you have the $, I would invite them. They will likely love to see your mom’s daughter as a bride. It will be like having a bit of your Mom in the audience.
Post # 5
I am so sorry for your loss, that is terrible. I agree with PPs, if you can invite them and it’s not a money issue, I would do so. Maybe enlist the help of one of your mom’s friends that you are close to if you need help with the guest list or addresses or anything like that. I am sure they would love to see you get married. Good luck to you.
Post # 6
Im so sorry for your loss. I lost my mother on 12/12/11, and it hurts like hell. Although I am not planning a wedding, I know that I will in the future. However, I have thought about this very thing!! I assume that when the time comes, I will take her closest friends out to dinner, and ask them what they think, what they think my mom would have done, etc. Especially, if it is not ‘out of my budget’ to do so. I wish you all the best. *Hugs*
Post # 7
@OUgal0004: Wow, My mother passed on 12/15/2011 very shortly after your mother. You hit the nail on the head too. It does hurt like hell. I was so shocked I still have trouble believeing it. I think I will talk to a couple of her friends and see what they say that is a good idea. I just worry too much about hurting other peoples feelings. My family tells me that all the time. Thanks for the hug…I needed it.
Post # 8
Thank you all so much for your suggestions. I think I will invite each of them and let them decide if they would like to attend. Money is definately not an object, especially now. My mother left me very financially secure. Our venue can accomodate up to 500 so space is not a problem either. I am 42 and never married and I was planning a bride-on-a-budget wedding because I felt my parents should not have to pay for my wedding at my age. I could have changed everything and planned the wedding of my dreams but I decided I would keep it the way it is because my mother was such a big part of the planning before she passed and I could never forgive myself if I changed what she helped create. It makes my wedding day that much more special knowing that even though she is not with me physically her thoughts, feelings and love will be in every thing I touch, taste and see. Again, I thank you for all your support.