Mother vs. Step-mother

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Bonus mom?  This is something he needs to address with her, I would stay out of it.

If his bio mom is okay with them both being called mom then it may not be an issue. I would have him check with bio mom first before making a big deal out of it.  Maybe called bio mom “Mother” and stepmom “Mom”?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

what does your FH think? I think he should probably be the one to raise these questions with both of the maternal women in his life. as for the gifts, I would get them both a gift. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

My brother in law had a similar situation and he addressed that his stepmom is “my other mother” and his real mom just “mom”.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Glad I could help

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@eecuadrado:  I’m a daughter-in-law to a mother and a stepmother. I would get them both gifts and equally spend time with them.

I introduce my stepmother in law as my mother-in-law because saying “stepmother-in-law” is too mouthy hahahaha. Or I will say “this is my father-in-law and his wife”. They’ve been married for 15 years and she is close to my DH.

It will work out!

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Can you just address both of them with their first names? I personally don’t call any of my in laws mom or dad. As far as gifts, do you mean birthday/holiday? 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@eecuadrado:  Mine do. They are not best friends but they are respectful of each other and know their boundaries.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

@eecuadrado:  My cousin was in a similar sitation with her husbands parents. She put:

 

Bio mom-Mother of the Groom

Step-mom w/ dad as- Parents of the Groom

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