- 3 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
So what is it about wedding planning that makes mothers a little crazy? My mohter is being a little difficult and my future mother-in-law is being border line psycho. My mother critizces the vendors my fiance and I pick and then she says never mind I’ll just hold my tongue. And she keeps on insisting there shouldn’t be a rehearsal. My fiances parents are paying for the rehearsal and she keeps insisting they need to put money towards the wedding. Correct me if I’m wrong but isn’t the rehearsal part of the wedding! My fiance is paying for most of the wedding. And my mom is just giving us about $400 should I take her along to help with the rest of the wedding planning, so she stops complaining?
As for my mother-in-law she wanted to take over the wedding planning. I don’t think she was going to pay for anything but as soon as she heard my mother was paying for something she offered to pay for the rehearsal. She wanted to wear something that looked like a bridal dress. She wanted to be the head of the bridal party and cakes etc. So I had my fiance talk to her and tell her we want everyone to particpate in the wedding planning but we will be giving out assignments. She told him that’s fine then later she called me and yelled at me! She said I can’t tell her son what to do and her son can’t tell her what to do. And I tried to explain I wasn’t trying to be mean it’s just my fiance and I had a different vision for our wedding. And she wouldn’t listen and just compared me to her ex husband (my fiance’s father) and then hung up the phone. Then I started crying after she hung up. Well my fiance called her the next day and told her we want you to help plan and please don’t get upset at my fiancee. She claimed she wasn’t upset and said she was sorry if anyone thought she was a pain in the ass. And that she’ll help plan if your fiancee still wants me to. I was going to have her help me make the flower girl dress and cakes and a few other things. But she said something that led me to believe she was going to try to ruin the wedding. But I feel like if I don’t put her in charge of something she’ll make a scene at the wedding. What should I do about her?