Post # 1
So, my mom called me up and said she found a dress that she apparently really likes.
It’s off-white netted lace brocade on top with sequins and beads, and a taupe satinesse skirt on the bottom. The dress comes with an off white jacket that matches the top half of the dress.
She tried this dress on in black at the store and she’s really considering ordering the style.
I’ve not seen it, so I don’t really know what it looks like on her. However:
1) I’m not thrilled with my mom trying to wear white.
2) She’s definately not going to order a black dress to wear to my wedding.
How would you feel about this? Would you even care?
Post # 3
Personally, I don’t care what my mom – or other guests for that matter – wears to the wedding. It’s supposed to be a fun, happy day that celebrates love, and I want everyone to be comfortable and feel like they look good. Let your mom wear what she feels is prettiest! You will be the center of attention no matter what!
Post # 4
@honeybeeee3130: I am with PP – I have told both mothers (and all the guests) that I am indifferent to what they decide to wear.
On the otherhand I do know that neither of them would wear white or ivory. I’m afraid I do not have advice on this 🙁
Post # 5
I wouldn’t have a problem if my mom wanted to wear a long white gown.. She’s a big girl, she gets to wear whatever she wants.
I also don’t see what’s wrong with an off-white dress, or a black dress for that matter. IMO, the bride gets to dictate her outfit and she has some say in her BM dresses, but she doesnt get a say in anyone else’s outfit.
Post # 6
My mother would never consider wearing white to my wedding, and I would feel angry and disrespected if she suggested it. I’d suggest going to some stores with your mom and seeing what else you can find that she likes.
Post # 7
if just the top half is ivory and the bottom is taupe, I don’t think it is a problem at all
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
@MASPA: Traditionally black is considered quite sombre and wearing it to a wedding could be taken as a sign that you are against it ^^
As for OP, taupe is kind of greyish right? I think it’s far enough away from white to not be a problem. But maybe (if you’re close) voice your concerns to your mum and possibly suggest shopping together?
Post # 10
I understand why you’d be concerned, but it doesn’t sounds like there is any way this is going to be mistaken for anything close to a wedding gown. I’d let go of worrying about this one, if you can.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t have been thrilled if my mom wore white or black, personally. If she really wanted to I wouldn’t have pressed the issue though. I think this really comes down to personal preference. You should tell your mom how you feel.
Post # 12
@MaidMarian: oops i didnt know. my mother wore a black/silver gown to mine, she looked awesome =)
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
@MASPA: Oh did you get married last december? Congratulations! I was just gunna say my friend got married last december and her mother wore a dark red/black dress suit, she looked really nice and classy tbh. I think dark colours are harder to avoid in winter, wearing black to a summer wedding would be a strange style choice (traditions or not) XD
Post # 14
Honestly, the only reason I would be upset by what my mom wore is if she wore an actual weding gown. And now that I think about it, that would be so absurd it would probably be funny! (i’m now picturing my mother, who lives in jeans, wearing a full tulle ballgown and giggling)
I think if the skirt is taupe it shouldn’t read bridal at all. But if it bothers you, maybe you can suggest finding a different jacket to wear with it that isn’t ivory?
Post # 15
who cares? nobody’s going to think that she’d the bride or that she’s in a funeral
Post # 16
I wouldn’t care if she wore black, but I would care if she wore white. I’m going shopping with my mom this weekend, and she is planning on wearing black, slate gray, navy blue or some other color that is not white (or plum, our main color, though I’m flexible on that.) It’s my understanding that the mothers are supposed to coordinate, and that black and navy blue are very popular mothers’ colors. Both the mothers at FBIL’s wedding wore black last year and looked very elegant.