Post # 1
just a pointless, need to get it out of my system, mini-rant.
Got my wedding shoes yesterday and they are beautiful. i’ve really struggled find the perfect shoes, being 5’9″ with a FH at just over 6′ and three BMs all at about 5′.
Whilst i LOVE skyscraper heels i just dont want to tower over hubby and the girls in all the photos so i’ve been searching for the perfect medium height heels that still look like high heels but dont make me too tall.
I found my shoes on ebay for only £20 which was perfect as everything else the right heigh were about £100! so i bought them and when they arrived yester day i plopped them on and flounched down to show my sister, mum and dad. Now these shoes are the most georgous ivory satin peep toe stilettoes that measure about 3.5inches in heel height (and did i mention i love them?)
well my sister did the appropriate oooh’s and aaaah’s, them my mother came out with this… “well they’re no good. you’ll have to send them back!”
cue dropped jaws and confused silence. (here begins the arguement)
so then we got into it and turns out that because im getting married (indoors) during oct, i obviously cant have satin. or peep toes. i must wear boots, made of leather and not in a colour that the mud will stain. so basically brown.
….eh?! then dear old daddy wades in and asks my mother what the hell she expects me to wear to my wedding and if she thought wellington boots would match my dress, and further more he reminded her that it does rain in june and july in england so did she expect all brides to not wear satin shoes?
this clearly enraged my mother and now the whole house is in world war III.
im kind of dissapointed that my mum wasnt delighted with my shoes and im getting more and more frustraited with how she objects to all my wedding decisions. i dont get why she cant jump on board with anything.
bee’s are you having issue’s with unexcited parents?
Post # 3
Oh my!! First of all, I think your father is hilarious, but I feel terrible for the situation you are in.
I am having the same problem with my parents. Actually, my dad is pretty much okay with whatever we do, so he isn’t being unsupportive but not overly supportive either. My mother however…..it has gotten to the point where I don’t even speak to her about the wedding anymore. I mention a few things to her that we would like to do (Candy Buffet as an example), and within 1 week I had an e-mail saying that it was a bad idea, but if I HAD to do it, I should do it like one of her friend’s daughters, because that was simply perfect! My mother seems to be more concerned about what guests (well, the ones she invited) will think, than what we (bride and groom) actually want.
Hopefully things with your mother improve. At least you seem to have a sister that knows what to do and say – I am sure she will be a great support to you!
Post # 4
The way I see it, you have two option.
1. Have a talk with your mom. (If you think it will help.)
2. Only ask your sister’s opinion. (And Dad’s.)
Post # 5
I really don’t get why anyone would wear boots to their wedding. Why does your mother think that is appropriate for a bride? And you’re getting married indoors, so why would there be a mud issue?
Post # 6
My mother is also a little unexcited. Last weekend we went Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping and she was saying how i should change my color to pink even though i have already made up my mind about my colors a long time ago and have been working hard to plan this. I dont mind opinions but not in the middle of the store. She is becoming more of a bridezilla then I am.
Post # 7
Your dad is hliarious, and I’m glad he’s on your side. But oy! Your mom is probably just having a lot of emotions that she didn’t expect about her little girl getting married, and this is how they’re coming out: by insisting that you should wear sensible brown shoes with your wedding dress, lol.
Post # 8
I hear you. My mother can’t even pretend to be excited about my wedding. She doesn’t like weddings, and the fact that this one is mine makes no difference. 🙁
I sometimes wonder if a daughter’s wedding either brings out the best or the worst in the MOB.