Mothers side of the family completely uninterested in my wedding.

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
498 posts
Helper bee

Oh hunny Evh2210:  I unfortunately dint have advice, nit i can relate to you. My mother’s only care in the world is her drunk abusive boyfriend of 9yrs. If it’s not about them it don’t matter. My mom hasn’t said one thing and we live with her right now still. I’m even really sick and about to start treatment abd she could care less about that too. It’s so hurtful abd upsetting. All i can say is I’m excited for you and this should make you closer to your fiancee, his family and the family does care and support you. Don’t let it rune it for you. 

Post # 4
585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I know the feeling! My mom’s side is pretty uninterested… Even if a cousin gets an ‘A’ in class they fawn over that more than my wedding. 🙁 We’re doing things a little untraditional and now I get even MORE sideways glares…<br /><br />Maybe they didn’t care much because you planned things before you were engaged? And they see that as like a bad thing? I have no idea…<br /><br />I don’t get why, now that things are more in motion for you guys, that nobody cares? 🙁 Can I ask how old you are? Is there like a stigma in your family with age and how long you’ve been together or something?…<br /><br />If not, we care!! 🙂 Keep posting to the Bee! Give us all updates! 

Post # 5
613 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I know it can suck, but I don’t think there is anything you can do. Perhaps they weren’t that excited because you booked your wedding before you were even engaged, which is unusual, so they might have been weary.

Is your cousin their child? If so it makes sense that they are more excited for her wedding.

My only advice to you is to let it go, who cares if they aren’t excited and asking you about your wedding? A famous saying around here seems to be “no one cares about your wedding as much as you do”. As long as you and your fiance are happy and excited, that’s all that matters (: congrats and happy planning!

Post # 6
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Um, I didn’t get any cards when I got engaged. And what exactly do you expect from people? Especially if you live far away, they aren’t going to be involved in the day to day stuff with your wedding. Since you booked your wedding and then got officially engaged, I’m sure people didn’t really know when they were supposed to be excited (much less send you a card)


Post # 9
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

My guess is that they became uninterested when you started booking stuff and then announced your engagement. They were probably already in the mindset that this wedding is going to happen obviously so when you did get officially engaged it wasn’t a shock or surprise.

And it sounds like your mom was excited at one point if she told everyone about it.

Post # 11
59 posts
Worker bee

I can totally relate. My mom doesn’t ask about the wedding. No one is helping. no one is interested

Post # 12
12 posts

I can relate. At my upcoming wedding I am going to be the only person there of 75 guests with my last name. My fathers side of the family, including my father himself, couldn’t be bothered to come. My sisters are married, my mom remarried. So, not a single person at my wedding I share a last name with, well at least until we say our I do’s as my future Mrs. is taking my last name.

I decided to focus on the people who do want to care. Screw those that don’t. They are gonna miss one hell of a party. Focus on the positives. Dwelling on the people who can’t be bothered to care will only put a damper on your day.



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