So my FMIL showed me some pictures of dresses she was looking at, she is really easy to get along with and I really like her. She is in great shape, so I figured she’d wear something sort of revealing and I was whatever about that. Some of the dresses were really cute, browns, pinks, and then she says, “This is my favorite, that I’m probably going to buy soon.” And it is freaking W H I T E.
Obviously not this short, but looks much like this one. (The picture I saw it was on a hanger.) And I looked at her like she was crazy & she goes, “well it’s more of a light champagne color.” NO IT IS WHITE. I always hear of moms wearing white & how everyone says, just to leave it alone, but wow. So rude. I just told her “Well my dress is white..and lace as well..” And left it alone. If she shows up in it, yeah i’ll probably be pissed, but everyone will think she looks ridiculous!
But I mean seriously….. -_- Just needed to vent. Cross our fingers she doesn’t buy it!!!!!!!
I don’t really think it’s a big deal with MOGs or MOBs wear white. No one will be mistaking them for the bride. I didn’t notice what anyone else was wearing on my wedding day.
At the last wedding I was at, the bride’s mom and the groom’s mom both wore white. I counted at least 5 guests in white. No one mistook any of the ladies wearing white for the bride. It was a summer wedding and white is a popular color in the summer.
That would really piss me off.
If you have a good relationship with her, can’t you have an honest conversation about how your not comfortable with her wearing a white lacey dress, when your wedding dress is white and lacey?
@futurepilotswife_: I went to a wedding two years ago where the bride’s mother showed up in a wedding gown. After that, I figured I didn’t care what anyone wore to my wedding as long as it wasn’t a wedding gown! So weird. I don’t know what was going on with that one. Just think, it could be worse…
I don’t think it’s a big deal, no one upstages the bride on her wedding day. I even told my guests they were free to wear whatever color they want.
Its rude of anyone else to wear white. Even if you dont mind, others may think less of her. Maybe FDH can speak to her.
Luckily, I don’t have this problem. I will be wearing an ivory dress, and ivory BM dresses are in the picture! However, I think it would be weird for my mom to wear a lacey ivory dress! First off, she’s way too old to attempt that [assuming its above the knees], and she’d look super weird [she never wears shorts or anything out of the house]. She has already picked out a nice ensemble that is good for her age though.
yikes… I think that dress has a whole lot wrong with it besides the color. Even if she is a hot youngish mom I think its a bit sexy to wear to your son’s wedding (not that she needs to wear an old lady suit either but there is a lot inbetween club gear and old lady)
See, I don’t go for that. Out of all the colors on earth, why on earth would she choose white!? And if she’s buying something pretty sexy like that, I can’t help but wonder if she wants eyes on her.
I would be upset also. I think it was perfectly fine for you to say what you did and if it was me I would have been more blunt. To me it’s unacceptable to wear white to somebodys wedding regardless of who you are in relation to the bride. Summer or not theres a million different colors, shades, and hues to wear that are summery.
It wouldn’t be surprising though if my FSIL or FMIL showed up at my wedding in white just to piss me off.
That would annoy the shit out of me I would have just been blunt and said “I’d rather you not wear any shade close to white, champagne or otherwise”. The end. People think in crazy if they want!
except for my own mom who I WANTED to wear a gold or champagne or something.
ONE colour that you don’t wear as a wedding guest, should it be so difficult to understand? I really don’t get it all, so I completely understand that you’re upset!
If she get it, have someone spill red wine on it!
Oh, come on, lighten up. Let her feel beautiful and special, too – if that’s what she wants to wear, so what? I don’t get the sense that it’s any kind of deliberate attempt to upstage you and you can decide to just be gracious.
But gads, as someone else said, that’s an – ahem – unusual style for the groom’s mother to wear – unless he’s like 20 and she had him when she was that same age . . .
Where do people learn all of these rules unless they are on the Bee? I really pissed off my stepsister when I wore a white sundress to her summer wedding. Seriously I had no clue that ONLY the bride can wear white. Um oops, my bad. My dress is champagne and people can come to my wedding nekid or in biker leathers for all I care, as long as they are there to support us and have a good time!