Mother/Sister Engagment Ring Story

posted 2 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

I think that you are right in wanting to give the ring to your little sister.  After all, it was a gift from her father to her mother. 

Some women would have pawned the ring or would have decided to keep it for themselves rather than giving it to their sister, but then they wouldn’t have had your good sense or your thoughtfulness.

Keep the ring safe and give it your sister on her 13th, 16th, 18th or 21st – whenever you feel that she would enjoy it and be mature enough to take good care of it.  Just before you give it to her it would certainly be worth checking on whether the ring can be re-sized to fit your sister’s finger.

When you are ready, just give her the ring at the same time as you give her your birthday gift.  It will be an extra surprise for her.

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Post # 3
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Helper bee

I have to say I am genuinely touched by your story, you have a big heart for wanting to give something so special to your sister. ^^

Post # 4
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Helper bee

Thank you for sharing this with us. (:

Post # 5
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Worker bee

I would wait until she is much older to give her the ring. I would say in her 20’s..I know it seems like a long time but when you give it to her you want to be sure that she is old enough to understand the depth of everything surrounding the ring. I would also not tell your Mother you have it. Might stir up some old feelings and she may want you to get rid of it. 

This a beautiful story. You are a wonderful big sister to do this for your little sis. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1987

MrsMN:  What is probably important is how the little sister feels about the ring – that she knows that her parents loved each other and that she is the result of that love.  I don’t think that there is any need to attach any other meaning to it.  I wouldn’t wait until her twenties for her to somehow understand the depth of everything her parents went through.  It was a failed relationship and it would be better for her just to enjoy a pretty ring, think of it as something that reminds her of her parents, and then create her own memories with it.

Also, gold jewellery as a gift to a teenager is a big thing.  At 13 I was given a gold signet ring and I enjoyed it for years but, as time moved on, my style changed and I wore other jewellery.  Yet I still remember the excitement of the day I was given it.  I’m not suggesting that 13 is the best age but I think that waiting until the girl is in her twenties is too long a wait.

 

Post # 7
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Worker bee

Supersleuth:  I would still wait until her sister were older to give her the ring. That’s just my opinion. You yourself put 21 as a suggestion. That to me seems a resonable age to give a 9 carat ring to a sibling. She will be  old enough to understand the sentiment of the ring and responsible enough to know  to be careful with it. She will also be independent enough at this age to wisely choose what she would want to do with it. Again, this is all just my own take. 

I’ve been given gold jewlery as a teenager, it is very exciting, and many of the pieces I still wear to this day but many of the more expensive pieces my Mother gave to me in my 20’s.Same thing with my other siblings, so I’m influenced by her own reasoning. 

Still such a beatiful story no matter what age OP decides to gift the ring to her sister. She’s a wonderful sibling to have thought to do so. 

 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

9 carats isn’t particularly valuable? I am lost.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

9 kt gold?

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

That’s an extremely wonderful thing to do. Your story made me tear up a lil. Lol. It would be a lovely gift for maybe her 13th or 16th birthday. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I kept the engagment ring that my daughters father bought me. I thought that maybe my daughter would love it to have a piece of our small time as a family together. We split when she was 2 (I left) And I think she might want it when she’s in her 20’s or 30’s….

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

CherryAndWhite:  Do you mean 0.9 carats? That’s not so small. What a lovely thing for you to keep it for your sister. Good on you. It’s nice to be reminded that your split up parents once truly cared about each other once. (9 carats would be quite a rock!) 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: Banquet hall

CherryAndWhite:  “Nine carat gold” would likely refers to the quality of the metal, rather than the size of the stone. Gold is measured based on the percentage of gold to a reinforcing metal, such as nickel (i.e. 9k, 14k, 18k, 24k).

What a wonderful story…maybe you could even hang onto until the time your sister has a SO waiting to propose!

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