Post # 1
Looking for suggestions/ideas:
Both of fiances parents are deceased. Not quite sure how to handle the mother/son dance. We where going to have him dance with his aunt who he was close to but she just passed as well.
Any thoughts of what to do ,
Post # 3
Is there any other women who is close to him in his family? Or you could just do the father/daughter dance and he could not have a mother/son dance? I don’t know if that’s an option for you, or if your FI woudl be hurt, but I know some of my friends husbands didn’t want a mother/son dance when they got married. Other than that Idk, but good luck, and so sorry for you and your FI loss.
Post # 4
I am so sorry. This is such a sad situation. Does he have a sister he could dance with?
Post # 5
I think you should just do a father/daughter dance or no parent dances at all. If there is no obvious choice as to who he should dance with, anyone you come up with will feel forced and will highlight his losses. Lots of people just do a father/daughter dance. But if that will be hurtful, I would nix that one too.
Post # 6
Thank you for your responses. Unfortantely, he is not close to any other women in his family, and is an only child. Thinking that I will probably nix both dances, unless I can figure something else out. Your right I dont want it to feel forced,
Post # 7
Just to chime in on the ‘don’t force it’ thinking. Though a possiblity could be to have a ‘parents dance’ during which you dance with your dad, and he dances with YOUR mum? (Or is that too weird?!…I just like to throw out all possibilities to consider.)
I’m so sorry you’re facing this!
Post # 8
I just wanted to chime in that I think that farmerfen’s idea is lovely, particularly if your FI and your Mom are close and/or get along well.
After all, in marrying you he is also gaining a a Mom and Dad (in law).
I would be extremely moved by this if I saw it at a wedding.
However if they’re not close or don’t really get along I agree, a forced dance would not be a good idea and it would probably be better to do without.