Post # 1
This is on my mind because of a recent post.
I am a size 20. I am 5’9″ and about 240 lbs. In the past, I have joined Weight Watchers, and I lost 49.5 lbs, and felt great. But I couldn’t get to 50lbs, and I back slid, gained all the weight back, and I am now at my all time highest weight.
I am NOT HAPPY at this weight. I realize some girls can be bigger and love their bodies, but I felt so much better when I lost all that weight. Both my parents are fat, and I have been fat my whole life.
What I want to know is what you ladies, especially those of you have lost weight, have done for motivation. I get really inspired to turn things around for a day or two, and end up falling right back off the wagon.
Anyone have any tips?
Post # 3
Do you have the opportunity to speak to a Dietician or Nutritionist? Maybe your family physician could recommend one, definitely go in and get a check up before doing anything. There could be underlining issues for weight gain outside of being inactive or the food we consume. I have hypothyroidism and I have to get my thyroid levels checked a lot. PCOS and Diabetes can also cause these issues.
As for weight loss, I’ve also struggled with it. What I found is I have a habit of eating when I’m doing something else…so if I consciously think about what and how much I’m eating, I eat less. Also, measure everything out, don’t eyeball it! Eating out is a big contributor for me. I hate cooking but the clean up is the worst! Perhaps making nutritious meals one day a week or a big meal that’ll last a couple of nights or lunches would be helpful. Do you think your Fiance could help you be more active, if you aren’t already? Even if you go for a 20-30 min. walk a day or every couple of days is better than nothing. I used to play tennis and stopped (that’s when I gained a lot of weight), Fiance and I decided that we should be more active so we go out a couple of times a week and play for 45 minutes. It’s fun! There are other activities you can do that will help. The biggest thing is to go easy and not strain yourself. People have the mantra “no pain, no gain” but I found that to be unbearable in the beginning. Try different things! Good luck! I have a year to lose some weight before my wedding…so we’re in the same boat!
Post # 4
I have spoken with my doctor and a nutritionist. I know how to lose the weight. But I just can’t seem to stick to it! It’s so frusterating.
Post # 5
Could you put mini goals on your calendar? For example, month 1: Lose 5 lbs. month 2: Go down a dress size. And then reward yourself everytime you get a goal?
I’m sorry I’m not much of assistance..
Post # 6
I have never been overweight, but my motivation was the fact that it IS possible to lose weight and I just kept at it. Even if I didn’t have results for a couple of months, I was addicted to the feeling that I was getting from working out. I kept switching things up…and the more I worked out, the more I felt the need for the BURN. It’s sort of hard to explain. But once i got over my plateau of non-noticeable results…when my family, my fiance, and friends started to notice…it gave me more motivation to go to the gym and become more sculpted.
I am not sure if this helps, but that is my experience!
Post # 7
I agree with beekiss, make mini goals. Every time you reach a goal reward yourself with something: new makeup, a new outfit, a trip to the spa, etc. Make sure your rewards do not involve food. I fully believe in “cheat” days/meals, but your reward should be something that will further better yourself/make you feel better!
Maybe have a pair of “goal” pants in your closet in the size you would like to get into. Every time you feel a lack of motivation pull out those pants and imagine how amazing it will feel to get into them!
I also find exercise easier if their is an end goal besides losing weight. Could you find a 5K to sign up for in say 6 months?
My favorite motivation? Posting a picture of a celeb I would love to look like on my computer/phone/wall/wherever. I know I will never look exactly like some of them (they have way more money than I to dedicate to fitness/weight loss), but it helps me not go overboard on my cheating.
Best of luck 😀
Post # 8
Oh hun, I am right there with you. But I’m 5’3 and 242. Size 18 miraculously. I think my boobs and my butt are the main harborers of all the weight lol! I’m super hourglass shaped.
Anyways, I think the motivation I have is to just not want to be like this anymore. The FFI loves me the way I am and tells me all the time he thinks I’m beautiful/sexy, but I’m just not happy with it. So, I’m trying to make better decisions about what I eat. But at the same time, if I want a cookie, I eat it and move on. Life is too short to torture yourself like that.
I think exercising is super important. Do you go to a gym? I like the eliptical a lot. I just hop on it for about 30 min and when I’m done I feel SO much better because I know I’ve done something good for myself.
Maybe sign up to do something with a lot of other people? Where there are team practice days? I signed up to do a 1/2 marathon with one of my friends, and I’m really excited to get going on that. First practice is this Sat! Having a friend is a lot more fun that sweating it out by yourself.
Post # 9
Oh, and I also wanted to mention that I think you carry your weight really well!!
Post # 10
I used to be overweight and i would look at runners and think i could never be one of them. I couldn’t run 200 meters without getting a cramp.
Then on day i decided to give it a try. I didn’t run far, maybe 20 max at a slow pace with lots of walk breaks. Every week i would add on a minute or two.
I made a promise to myself that i would try it for a month (because i had read somewhere that bad habits take 21 days to break). Anyways if after a month i still didn’t like running then that was fine i would stop.
well after a month (even much before) i realized i really liked running. I liked that i could see myself accomplishing a further distance and running for more time. What i liked even more was the pounds literally sliding off of me.
now i have run over 7 half marathons and have completed a triathalon (6 yrs later)
i know running isn’t for everyone, but i think the trick could work, convince yourself to stick to something for a month. if you don’t see results or enjoy it after that, then that is fine, but at least you gave it a try and you can’t beat yourself up over that 🙂
Post # 11
@futuremrs: I completely agree on the running thing. Six weeks ago I decided to start running even though I hate running and have ZERO endurance. I started on the C25K plan and hated it for weeks. Now I can run 3 miles straight with little problem and am training for a 1/2 marathon in September!
OP: I am not overweight but believe me when I say I am “skinny fat” and have not one athletic bone in my body. But I love to run now! Really try running/jogging/walking to start taking off the pounds. Eventually you might find you really like it as it is a nice way to clear your head from the day!
Post # 12
First I apologize if this post is crazy long… I could go on an on with this topic.
Girl my heart completely goes out to you and I hope I can offer some type of advice. In the past year, I’ve lost 100lbs and it was due to a MAJOR lifestyle change. I was a very happy person before and actually had lots of self-esteem, I just knew that being overweight wasnt healthy and I knew I needed to change. I feel like every person that wants too or needs to loose weight has to reach a certain point where they say enough is enough I’m really doing it this time. And dont ever let go to that feeling. I dont know exactly what to say to motivate you, for me, it was just like “ok I’m doing this and I’m doing it right because I never want to do it again.’ And you said yourself, you know how to do it! You’ve done it before, I’m confident you can do it again! I know its a hard road, loosing weight isnt fun, but just think of all the long term benefits of having a healthier lifestyle. When you are tired, sore, want to give up, just think of how happy and proud of yourself youll be if you keep going.
I agree with the other posts, for me small goals was key. But I did have a lot more weight to loose than you. I started out saying I’m gonna loose 30 lbs, when I did, I said ok 50, then 75, etc. Set small goals for yourself, and they dont have to be numbers on the scale, they can be, I’m going to go to the gym or exercise 5 times this week…and when you do it, you know itll be easier then next week. Or say, I’m not going to eat out, etc. If you look too far into the future it may seem overwhelming and make you want to give up.
Lastly, do you have any friends or family who can be supportive and help you stay accountable? I am blessed to have amazing friends and family who were behind me 100% and as embarassing as it was at times ( I called people having breakdowns about weightloss and eating) I could have never got thru it without them. Take strength in the people around you, let them help you thru your journey.
And one last thing, just put trust and confidence in yourself. You know you can do it. I hope this helped even a little. If you ever need to vent or talk, feel free to PM me anytime. Good luck!! Remember you can do anything you set your mind too 🙂
Post # 13
Thanks for all the advice ladies!
I don’t know what the rules are about talking about non-wedding related blogs. But I started a weight loss blog at 28thofmay.com
Post # 14
I’m the same size and in the same position. Lost 80 lbs. gained it back, lost 25 after getting engaged and now I am back plus some. I have no doubt I can lose the weight, because of two things.
When I’ve lost the weight before I basically just ask myself when I am doing nothing, why am I not working out, and is what I am doing getting me to my goal. That’s always worked. When I’ve slid, I’ve stopped confronting myself.
Also, I really want to go parasailing on my honeymoon and to do that, my fiance and I have to lose a combine 100 lbs. so I am going to make sure that happens.
Good Luck…. and I agree you are super cute!
Post # 15
I lost 45 lbs with Weight Watchers a few years ago and hit my goal weight. I lost it with Weight Watchers and the C25K program. Oddly enough, I remember it being really easy while I was losing it. Maintaining that loss ended up being a lot harder than losing it, and I gained back about 30 lbs which I’m now trying to lose by October (at least some of it!).
I think the biggest thing you can do for yourself is NOT set yourself up for failure. Even if you exercise every day and eat perfectly, sometimes you won’t lose weight. Try not to focus on the scale because you cannot control how much weight you lose. You can control what you put into your mouth, whether you journal your daily intake, whether you go to the gym and work at your max, etc. Make some goals for yourself at the start of each week (ie…I will journal every day, eat my fruits & veggies 4/7, exercise 3/7). And “reward” yourself if you meet THOSE goals. Get a manicure, or buy yourself a lovely bouquet of tulips. Honestly, I’m not that big on rewards because I find that my changing body is reward enough. I’m a visual person and love to collect the little gold stars at WW meetings, so I guess that’s my “reward”
Take your measuremens too, once a month. That will really help if you lose less weight than you want, or if you happen not to lose at all that month. Treat exercise as something you have to do each day, like brushing your teeth. Even if you don’t want to brush, you still do. Treat exercise the same way and eventually it will be habit and you will learn to love it because of how it makes you feel.