Motivation for unhelpful fiance?

posted 2 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
Member
262 posts
Helper bee

my FH was like this at first too.  i told him i would only take with him about wedding stuff one day a week, that we neither of us become too weighted down with it.  some things i can handle on my own, and when i need his opinion, he prefers me to bring him 2-4 options and he picks, thats it.  but i also gave him a typical checklist timeline, in our timeframe so he would see the urgency and items that are important.  but i also dont bomb him with centerpiece ideas a year out etc.  so its a game for a bit. 

Post # 4
Member
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It sounds to me like he is worried about the costs that are accumulating. Maybe he said yes to some of these things, such a videographer, before realizing how very expensive they are and is now experiencing sticker shock. 

Post # 5
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

We dicussed the bigger things, but I’ve done more of the planning. SO has had opinions about smaller things that didn’t matter much to me at all, [cake topper, ties for him & his guys, late night snack, ect]. Anytime he showed interest in a detail, I was sure to try my best to fit it into the wedding.

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