Post # 1
We have only a 4-month engagement, so I’ve been push, push, pushing from even before he officially proposed. Now we’re inside 20 days and I’ve lost all my focus and motivation. There are so many little details to take care of and I’m just unfocused and blase about it all.
Every day until the wedding I’ve got 3-4 things to do. Today I should’ve been creating a photo list to send to the photographer, calling RSVP slackers, and alerting everyone to the rehearsal time.
I did none of those things. I just went over to my FI’s new apartment (we moved him in yesterday) with the intention of just spending an hour. I helped him with some of those little things that crop up when you move, and then that was it–just hung around and snuggled and didn’t care a bit that I should’ve been home working on things.
It’s so scary that part of me really doesn’t care whether or not I have sleeves on my dress, whether we have serving dishes for all food, signs for the photo booth, etc. I just want to get married and go on our honeymoon.
Hope this passes soon becuase I know that deep down I will care VERY MUCH about all these details…
Post # 3
Take a day off! No wedding talk, no wedding planning. Just relax and enjoy your FI! Seriously, have a nice date night, go out and relax, and have a good time. It sounds like your burnt out and just need some time to recharge your batteries! Everything will get done, and one day off won’t kill you! Good luck!
Post # 4
I was a little like that a few weeks before the wedding. So exhausted and still so scared of all that was still left to do..wedding stuff every-single-day can take a toll on your nerves alright! I agree with the advise abbie just gave you. Enjoy a day entirely off-wedding stuff and recharge a little your energies. I know the feeling of really wanting the wedding to be over and jump right into the honeymoon..guess most of us feel like that! It’s the wedding stress!!!!! I promise it WILL get better and you will have a beautiful day and a relaxing honeymoon. You’re almost there!!
Post # 5
@abbie017: I like your idea! I’ll try that.
I don’t think I’m scared or seriously exhausted, I just feel like I’ve worked very hard and getting my FI into what will be our new place on Sunday felt like such a huge step–we’re SOOOO close to the end now and I just want to be with him, not worry about all the details that I know aren’t nearly as important as the commitments we’ll be making and the simple joy just being able to wake up next to him every day. Goodbyes are getting harder and harder… 😛
Post # 6
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with how you feel! Just take some time off and maybe see if there are any friends/family/BMs/etc that might be willing to help out with some of the things. Explain that you’re burnt out, would appreciate help, and would totally understand if they don’t want to do it – because after all, it’s your wedding and even you don’t want to do it!
Also, I think it’s better that you feel this way – imagine if you were freaking out and stressed out about everything?? Ugh, what a nightmare! At least this way, you don’t care anymore – you just want to get married and go on your honeymoon, what a wonderful feeling! If something goes “wrong” – who cares?? As long as at the end of the day, you’re married and on your way to your honeymoon, NOTHING has gone wrong.
Post # 7
Thanks, everyone! I’m definitely going to aim for a wedding-free night this week.