Post # 1
Ok so seriously I think I am the worlds worst about working out, I just cant find any motivation. I was doing really good this time last year, I was really watching what I eat and kind of/trying to work out frequently and lost about 5-6 pounds. But I lived all alone then well now the FI and I live together and HE EATS HORRIBLE!! I try my best to not eat how he does and am pretty good for the most part but its still there and I always use the out of sight out of mind tactic, like I dont buy that stuff that way if I want it its not there and I am forced into healthy foods. I also really try to stay regular with working out but I lack all kind of motivation. I have no friends here because I recently moved and have yet to really meet anyone and I hate to say it but the FI is a horrible health influence. I already lack motivation and then when I do try to work out he tries to talk me out of it because he would rather go to the movies or dinner blah blah blah…what do I do bees?!?!? I am suppose to be losing weight because I have a wedding coming in Oct and instead I am slowly putting it on
Post # 3
First off, we’re date twins… so YAY!
Secondly, I totally understand what you’re going through. I went through this with FI about a year ago or so. I wanted to eat healthy and workout, but his diet is horrible and he had no motivation to change anything about how he eats or to workout. We live together so it was twice as hard since most of our meals were shared. I finally had to sit down with him and explain to him how important losing weight and feeling good about myself was to me and how I needed his support. Nothing changed overnight… we had several arguements because I would get upset when I felt like he was trying to sabatoge me. Until he finally caught on, I would make my own dinners and after several failed attempts, learned how to say no to the things I shouldnt be eating. Although, it is recommended that you dont deprive yourself of the things you crave all the time. Indulge a little, but know when to stop… this will keep you from having a major binge later on down the road. As far as working out goes, try finding things that you may be able to do together like some of the Wii workout games, walking, swimming, playing basketball, etc. Its still exercise even if its not lifting weights or running. The other thing that has seemed to work for the two of us is having our “alone” time each day. For the first three years of our relationship, he worked evenings… so when he started working days and was home with me every night, he always wanted us to do things together. We both finally realized that it was good for us to do our own things sometimes. I”ll workout and he’ll play games on his xbox or the computer or watch something on TV I’m not interested in. It works for us… I hope it helps you as well. I ended up losing 43 lbs. in 2008 and have managed to keep it off. Good luck!
Post # 4
Ugh, I feel you. I have absolutely NO motivation to go to the gym. None. And it’s TERRIBLE cause I put on about 20 pounds the last half of 2009 and I feel absolutely disgusting. I need something that works… and fast!
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden
in terms of personal motivation – the best thing that works for me is to keep a journal. I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but if you write down EVERYTHING you eat and all your exercise, it’s a great motivater. Don’t let yourself not write something – every single morsel you eat goes down! You’ll see how quickly your decisions change when you have to look back at it! And it feels great to see how many times you’ve worked out…I jsut use a daily planner from Staples.
I am right with you guys. I’m feeling the crunch and I need to make a change. I’ve journaled in the past, but I just started again yesterday – we can do this together!
Post # 6
well you say that you don’t have any friends yet, so why not kill two birds with one stone? Join some sort of workout group. And the fact that they are new friends will make sure that you wont let them down and flake out on planned workouts. There’s got to be some sort of running club around you.
Post # 7
Shannon i feel ya on that! My FI is addicted to these chocolate chunk fatty cookies from the safeway bakery, of course he has a rockin body with abs. Me however i HAVE to have a cookie everyday if they are in the house. I can’t even enter it in sparkpeople because i have no idea the calories but im guessing 250+ (ruins calories for the day completely)… So i pretend like it never happened! But i put up a fight at the store every week.
Post # 8
Oh I so know what you’re going through. Although, I think that the fella and I were probably just as bad as each other! We both put on about 10kg (22 pounds) but the fella used his steely determination and lost it in like, 2 months. But I just can’t live on salad subs and run…. I’m not that good! I’m trying really hard to watch what I eat right now and I’m making an effort to do some excercise every day. Although, I still have to do some today….. My motivation is picturing me in my wedding dress on my wedding day. I know that if I lost the weight I’d be SO proud and happy. I know that if I don’t a little part of me will be super disappointed in myself and I’d be a bit self conscious on the day.
Post # 9
How about using better health as motivation? There’s enough out there to demonstrate that it’s not about what your body looks like or weighs, but about how physically healthy you are through what you eat and what your activity looks like.
Post # 10
ditto!! sophia is my motivation (my dress).and she’s pretty curve hugging and i really need to slim and tone to look even more fantastic than i already do in here (i’m conceited a bit, no lol)