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Don't mourn. Get happy!
I love intimate weddings. You can get more bang for your buck, decorate like mad, and have a stress-free blast!!! It's a good thing (sorry Martha)!
Check out a site just for that.. www.intimateweddings.com It's great for smaller weddings and make their blog a good usual read! I love their blog.
I really want to elope, but Im afraid I would reget it. On the same note I want to have a small wedding too! Just think how intimate it will be, just because its small doesnt mean it cant be fun!
*HUGS* I'm sorry that your dream wedding isn't to be -- more than that, I'm sorry that your family is being so juvenille. Like Bellenga said, smaller intimate weddings can be super awesome! : ) I'm having an 80-person wedding (and it's only that big because our families are big), and I'm honestly so happy that I'll get to TALK to people. Check out http://2000dollarwedding.com. : )
I love the links! Thanks ladies :) Also, any thoughts on how to handle the drama? I never thought adults, much less grandparents could act so, as Jenniphyr said 'juvenile.' It's so funny because my educational background is in 'people' (Social Sciences) but I guess when it's your own family it's a whole different beast.
Thanks!
Bella
We are having an intimate wedding with 30-40 guests as well. We are excited to get to spend time with everyone and to be able to do great food & drink, etc.
It will be so much less stress and you'll have more fun!
YES. I felt exactly the same way. It turned out fine - a lot of people showed up that I didn't think would, but my family didn't come at all. You DO have fun, trust me. And yeah, you do only spend about five minutes per table saying hi, but you also spend a lot of time on the dance floor, or just mingling, or whatever. But I'm all about intimate weddings and if I had to do it over again, I'd probably have a very intimate or destination wedding with just a few people.
My friend's father is an alcoholic which has caused a ton of family drama through her life. Her husband's parents had a messy divorce and even hate their ex's new spouses. After initially going through planning hell, they decided to have a tiny courthouse wedding and spend their money on a fabulous European/South African honeymoon. It ended up saving them a lot of headaches and tears in the end. When they returned, they had a party with friends while wearing their wedding clothes, so they still got the party minus the drama. Worked out well for everyone.
We had an intimate wedding--a total of a dozen people, including us. It was great! The people who were there were all close to us, so they just pitched in when there were glitches. And we were able to serve a choice of filet mignon or lobster, with real champagne, which we could never have done for a bigger group.
And like the PP, we had a big party for our friends back at home.
My family is giving me the same drama. "If he/she comes, I'm not going". I just tell them fine, no big deal, your loss. Even my mom has done this to me, and I really don't care. If people can't suck it up for one day to see you happy, then they don't need to show up anyways.
On another note, intimate weddings are gorgeous and so meaningful. I hope that you can find a way to celebrate your day drama-free. You'll have a fun day regardless, don't worry!
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Ok, so this is sort of a vent/question post all rolled into one. We have decided to have a smaller, more intimate wedding for a couple of reasons.
We weren't happy with the way some of the larger venues treated us (like brides are a dime a dozen so we could come or go, they didn't care), extreme family drama, didn't care to spend thousands on a day that we could barely have fun on (I read something like you have 5 min per table if you have 150 guests because you need to personally greet each one) , etc. Even though I know this smaller more intimate wedding is probably for the best, I have to admit I am still 'mourning' the idea of having that big, beautiful wedding that I always dreamed of and wonder if I will always feel this way.
My family drama has skyrocketed as of late (NWR and we have always had drama, it's just gotten ridiculously worse lately). Even the few people (35-40 people) we were thinking of inviting to the new and improved small intimate wedding, seem to be at eachother's throats. There have even been the 'if that person comes then I won't be there' type of threats (including from grandparents no less!). I have been thinking lately that we might go even smaller and just elope or have just our parents, nephew, and attendants there (total of about 13 people).
Anybody else feel this way or have this dilemma?
Thanks,
Bella