Mourning someone's passing publicly on social media. what do you think about it?

posted 2 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
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10487 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

No one really cares but the relatives and people who knew the person who passed.

<div style=”overflow: hidden; color: #000000; background-color: #ffffff; text-align: left; text-decoration: none;”><br />I disagree, if a friend or relative is hurting, I care.</div>

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

There is no right way to grieve. Personally, Facebook isn’t my style for such personal events, but if it brings someone else comfort to post about their loss (or even check in at the funeral), I’m not going to judge them. 

Mourning is a personal process but that does not mean it must be done in utter privacy.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

As has been said it’s a very personal thing

If you can share your proud and happy moments why not share the sad ones? *shrug*

Some people grieve with a community and others alone, no I do not find it odd

 

Just as a PS… even if you aren’t close to someone finding our they passed can still be traumatic.

Post # 6
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10487 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

newbeelove:  I have friends that I might not be super close to, but I still care.  Sometimes you can get great perspective or comfort from those you aren’t super close too, as they aren’t caught up in the same thing.

Post # 7
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Newbee

I have found out about a couple of deaths of my former co-workers or former students through posts on Facebook that just say, “RIP So-and-so”

Personally, I think it’s awfully tacky. To me it looks like the person posting is trying to make an anouncement that someone died and they are fishing for reaction because often many people will comment with things like “Really?!” or “I didn’t know!” 

When my former manager passed away in an awful motorcycle accident, a coworker posted ‘RIP HerName” and tagged her on facebook within hours of her death. I thought it was disgusting and so terrible for any family or close friends that had to find out that way.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Don’t be judgemental towards others grieving because it’s different then yours. 

Post # 11
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Newbee

I think these people just don’t understand their place and are attention-seeking.

Yes, you’re sad and upset, but it’s not your place to announce something like this on social media, just like it’s not your place to announce somone else’s pregnancy or engagement.

If someone is seeking support, then they should go to someone that is close to them and work out their feelings in private until someone that is very close to the deceased (parent, spouse, sibling) makes a social media announcement about it.

I ususally take most social media postings with a grain of salt, but this is one thing where people definitely need to exercise more etiquette out of respect for grieving families. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

newbeelove:  But they are dealing with the emotions that comes from losing someone. And to some people, talking about it, telling other people, is a way of dealing with it.

I lost my step mom and I posted on Facebook about it (after the immediate family had been told, and my dad had posted first), and I know there are people who found out that way. But in today’s society, that’s similar to The Call people used to have to make. Or finding out second hand when you run into a mutal friend 4 months later and they tell you. Social media is how people communicate their feelings and their opinions in todays society. If you have a better way of telling friends who are all over that someone they love has passed, well make a Kickstarter and make it. This is the way people communicate.

I blogged all about my greif and mourning process and still do. It makes ME feel better. It helps me deal with the things that come up with it, because people don’t want to hear about it in person. And yes, some of it comes from wanting people to grieve with me, to know that my feelings of sadness are justified, and to get peace from other people sending thoughts and prayers.

People deal with things differently, and you’re being judgemental because it’s “selfish” in your eyes.  

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

newbeelove:  “But I don’t find them grieving. I see them just another reason to post on fb to get attention. “

 

EVERYTHING about what you just said is judgemental….

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Everyone grieves differently. I think you need to change your attitude about them only posting to get attention because I don’t think that is everyone’s intention (although it may be for some people). 

There are some people on there who I do not talk to very often but I still care about them and want to be there for them if they are hurting. 

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