Post # 1
ok ladies and gents. i’m a somewhat regular bee going ninja status on this one. I just want an outside opinion since my husband and I aren’t talking to any of our friends and family about this yet. it’s about our living situation… welp here it goes.
To stay in South Florida or to move to North Carolina…
a little backround ..
As for myself I have lived in south Florida my whole life. In the same city even. I’ve never seen snow. I do not like cold weather. My whole life is here in Florida. I have a good paying stable job here. I am 28.
For my husband he moved to Florida when he was 5 and has lived here ever since (also in the same city). He loves the snow and the cold weather. he has a retail job he absolutely loathes. Also he teaches an acting class twice a week that is steady and he likes. He is 30.
His mother about 3 years ago up and moved to North Carolina to where his oldest brother (and family) lives. They have been poking around at us moving up there for awhile. His other brother lives in Georgia so it would be closer to him and his family as well. The only problem is everything we have ever known is here in south florida. My family all of our friends jobs etc. We just got married about 3 months ago and we currently live in a house with my parents. Both my husband and I have said that we do not want to raise our children (when we have them) here where we live. it’s a big highly populated cuty and It’s not a fantasic education system. I have always wanted to live in NC aside from the cold. The people are nice and the the leaves change colors. I know it sounds ridiculous but when you’ve lived in a place where the leaves don’t change colors and you have 2 seasons. Hot and Hotter it’s a big deal. If we moved up there we would be living with his mom until we got ourselves on our feet and were able to rent an appartment in the area. We might even be able to buy a house with our credit scores and the downpayment we have saved. I would also see if my license for work would be able to transfer up ther or if I would have to get recertified. I also know that he misses his family dearly and i do adore them.
I don’t even know what i’m looking for here. I guess i’m just torn. Should North Carolina be an option?
Post # 2
Where in NC? Some of NC is terrible, and some of it is top notch.
Post # 3
memorieslff: Between Wake Forest and Apex.
Post # 4
somedaysoon: I was born and raised in Charlotte, NC and have never left. Most everyone is friendly, we get 4 totally different seasons, I am 2 hours from the beach and 2 hours from the mountains and there are tons of places to travel for a weekend getaway. I’m completely in love with NC. Let me know what part in particular you were looking at!
Post # 5
somedaysoon: The Raleigh area is great, I have several friends that live in Cary and love it there.
Post # 6
I moved to Florida 2 years ago from somewhere that has season changes and I miss it dearly! I say go and enjoy season changes and his family. The first year will be brutally cold, but you will get used to it. Your family and friends will visit, or you can come visit and get some sun.
I want to move away from Hot and Hotter, but My fiance can’t leave at the moment-school and work…..
Post # 7
Definitely keep it an option but make sure to stay up there for a week or so and really get a feel for the area youd (most likely) be living in. You should also do this with a different area of florida (you said you wouldnt want children in your current area). Just explore all the possibilities before settling on one. The 3rd option if you havnt considered it already is to move somewhere between? Georgia or SC? How would you feel about that sort of compromise? The weather being a little warmer than NC and location between both families?
Post # 8
somedaysoon: I am from CA and am used to toasty temps, though not the humidity, and I love NC weather (except the humidity, which is nowhere near what you’re used to). It’s nice to have a chance of snow during the holidays. The cold isn’t too bad, and it’s still pretty pleasant this late in the year. We’ve been having some weird weather this year, though.
I love the Raleigh area though. A lot to do, pretty, very nice.
Post # 9
- Wedding: Cottage on the Creek
i grew up in cary, my FI in charlotte. we will almost certainly return (to one or the other) when it becomes kiddo time. The schools there are excellent. There are awesome public parks and hiking areas.
It’s hot and steamy in the summer (but not as bad as FL!) with a relatively mild winter. Growing up we got about 3 snows a year, 2 of them being dustings that barely stuck, one being ~3 inches average.
Raleigh is 3 hours to the mountains, 3 hours to the beach. You get the benefits of a bigger city – malls, stores, etc.
DON’T move somewhere random in the NC sticks. Lol – there’s about 5-10 acceptable towns and everything else is country. My relatives live there and trust me – you don’t want to.
But I might be biased!
Post # 10
wlphilli: it would be in the Raleigh Durham area? between Apex and Wake Forest. Both of thise cities are beautiful every time we’ve been to visit.
Giraffelover: I was thinking just that. my family and friends can come visit and it’s not like we can never come back to Florida. Visiting or otherwise.
KateA17: we thought about Georgia. He has a brother that lives there. I’m not a fan of georgia. I don’t nessicarily know why but I’ve never liked it. I do have a sister that lives in Tallahassee. I suppose that could be an option. I don’t want to move too far away from a support system. I’ve seen friends do it and they are utterly miserable.
Miss Coral: I definately do not want to be in the sticks. My husband would murder me. I’m used to the big city so i figured it’s not too much of a jump lol
thanks everyone for your imput. we are still teetering back and forth. I’m leaning more towards NC everyday but it’s absolutely terrifying to think about moving away from everything and everyone you’ve ever known.
Post # 11
I did my undergrad at High Point my father is from Vance County and own lands on Kerr Lake. If I was not planning to move with my FI up north I would definitely be living in NC.
Post # 12
somedaysoon: Well I’m super biased, but get out of FL. I’ve lived in IA, CA, So FL, and MN and it’s not easy to move and re-establish yourself, but personally FL was the worst placed I lived. I hear ya on the 4 seasons. We are having autumn right now and it’s specatular! But that also means winter is coming. I don’t know for sure, but I’m guessing NC doesn’t even get snow? Cool weather is fun because you can have bonfires, you get to buy cool sweaters, coats and boots. I hate the snow here, but in NC I think you’re safe. Your money will likely go much farther, too, when you buy a house in NC.
Post # 13
We moved from CA to Morrisville, NC in Feb of 2013, and we just moved back home to CA to be closer to family.
The transition to NC was really hard for us, a lot harder than we expected. I’m not sure how the transition from FL to NC would be.
In the year and a half that we lived there, I think it only snowed once or twice. It was cold, but org wasn’t bad. I hated the humidity during the summer though.
The school system in NC is pretty bad right now as teachers are very very poorly compensated. Other than that, I think it’s a pretty good place to raise kids, and the housing market is great.
Personally, NC wasn’t for me, but a lot of people love it.
Post # 14
somedaysoon: I’m an NC girl, who lived in FL at two different times – both as a high school student for a year, and again in college for 3 years. Get the heck out of FL! lol I hate it there!! I personally didn’t have a single positive expereince about living in FL. I found the weather to be miserable (I love summer, but it’s just so stinking hot all the time – I love my seasons), and the school systems were total crap. Not to knock the people, since you’re from FL, but that was another downer for me. NC is just a pretty awesome state in general. It has everything – beach, mountains, seasons, friendly people, small towns, city life, etc. I personally live on the coast, and while I’m not much for city life – Raleigh (and the surrounding area) is a great place. I have a lot of friends who live out there and it’s just a really cool place to live if you like being in the city/action. The housing market is affordable, and there is just a lot of options.
Post # 15
somedaysoon: this is funny to me because it sounds like we are swapping places! my husband and i live in charlotte, nc and are making plans to move to the florida keys in march of next year! we just want to get away for a bit and are in love with the area (sounds quite different from the part of south florida where you live!)…NC is just amazing…i can’t say enough good about it. we’ll live in the keys for a year and come back because i want to raise my children here 🙂