Post # 1
so i have always wanted a fall wedding. my fiance and i had agreed on getting married in oct 2012. just yesterday we were talking about his graduation from his bachelors and his plan to continue his education and get his masters. he is scheduled to graduate may of 2012 and the masters program begins in august 2012. he is a deputy sheriff, so his university has a special program that accomidates his schedule. His masters degree is a one year program that consists of 3 semesters, 1 class ata time, 5 weeks per class with a one week break every third class. So when he starts the program in august he will not have a week off until the middle of december. So that outs a damper on our plans to get married in october since there is no time for a honeymoon.
he suggested that we keep our date anyway and just wait till december to go on our honeymoon. that just seems silly to me. he said he’ll go along with whatever i decide, so it’s up to me. keep my intended date and wait for a honeymoon or push the date back 2 months? i just worry that if we stick with october he will have a paper or a class presentation due and we will spend our “wedding weekend” doing homework, lol. we have not yet booked anything (although i have picked a dress, lol), so we dont need to worry about any of that.
have any of you bees had a similiar situation? how did you handle it?
Post # 3
I say keep your date and go on the honeymoon later. My DH was in the Army when we got married and we didn’t have the time to go on a honeymoon, so we went on one almost a year later. It was the best!!! Not only did we have something else to look forward to after the wedding, but we were able to have a much nicer honeymoon due to all the extra months we had to save 🙂
Post # 4
I am in a similar situation due to the fact that my FI is in the army and his career plans are all up in the air right now, so he has no idea if he will be able to take off for a honeymoon directly following the wedding. To me, the wedding is the most important and I’d rather keep my date and marry him and then plan our honeymoon later for whenever we can.
Sure it’s great to get married and then board that plane but to me, it seems silly to base your wedding around the honeymoon. A lot of couples I know took a honeymoon later for different reasons and it wasn’t a big deal. Gives you something to look forward to!
I definitely understand, though, how you feel because at first when he told me we would jsut have to see, I was a little upset because it’s your honeymoon and that’s how I’ve always pictured it. When it comes down to it, it’s really not a big deal when you take it, you’re still married and had a wonderful wedding day and at that point, it just comes down to what you want to do.
Make your decision based on what really works best with your schedule for the wedding day. October might be busy with school and if that’s the case, wait until December. December will be busy for the holidays so really look into what December will be like for yall and also compare prices.
Post # 5
@JsDragonfly: I agree, I would keep your date and go on your HM 2 months later. It will also give you the fall wedding you have always wanted and give your FI a nice vacation from school!
Post # 6
We did a wedding with a later honeymoon. We moved right before our wedding and had both started new jobs, so we had no vacation time. We ended up going on a vacation in December. It was fantastic! We got to go on a hot vacation when it was cold out, and it was like a second celebration. Have your dream wedding date, and a second celebration with a late honeymoon.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ
Definitely honeymoon later. I’ll be in my masters program during our wedding too, and there will always be some reason to postpone the wedding. You can always work a paper or assignment around big life events.
Post # 8
I’d move my wedding date.
I personally wouldn’t want to get married and then have to go back to classes / work / normal life on Monday. The break to relax and enjoy time with your new husband is really important, IMO – whether it is a formal fancy honeymoon trip or not. So if I couldn’t get that “break” in October (which it sounds like you can’t), I’d move the wedding to December when we’d have a break.
Post # 9
I say it all comes down to what’s more important: The date you get married or going on a honeymoon directly after your wedding.
I personally have no problem with waiting for a honeymoon. We are going to wait a few weeks by choice anyway, and had considered a few other dates in March/April. It’s not unusual or wrong to do so, but if it doesn’t feel right, don’t do it.
Post # 10
Almost everyone I know (we’re in grad school) who is in school takes their honeymoon at a different time/doesn’t leave right after their wedding. It’s kindof a bummer, but it’s almost become the norm as far as friends I know. It seems a lot of people will have a summer wedding and then take their honeymoon during winter break or the following summer so that they have more of a break and to save up more money.
Post # 11
I am in a similar situation.
FH and I both are in school finishing our bachelors. He will graduate in May 2012, I will graduate in May 2013. We had planned on getting married the first week in August 2012. I start classes again a week later. It’s not ideal, but due to other circumstances, it’s what we’re probably going to have to do. That, or have a wedding right around Christmas 2012, which is not something I really want to do and it wouldn’t really work for either of our families.
We aren’t taking a real honeymoon until after I graduate.
I’d say that if it’s important for you to have your honeymoon right after your wedding, move the date. If you can stand to wait a little while, keep your date and have your honeymoon later.
Post # 12
Have you considered moving your date to the summer in between? Late summer is a lot closer to fall than December and you could go right on your honeymoon too. It would be nice because you wouln’t have to pack it all into a week in December and you also wouldn’t have to worry about the holidays. Good luck!
Post # 13
thanks for all the responses ladies!
@peaches1038 a summer wedding is out of the question. we live in southern CA and its in the 100+ temperatures and our venue is outside. i’m in my early twenties and from the few friends of mine who have gottem married un summer, i remember how much it sucked being at their outside weddings/receptions in that heat. i would not want to do that to my quests.
i just think it would be weird for us to get married on fri or saturday and then have him go back to school that tuesday. I just think that we’ll have bad luck and he’ll have a huge research project or presentation due around that time and he will be distracted and wont be able to enjoy his own wedding. i’m leaning towards moving the date to december, it just seems to be more beneficial to his schedule.
Post # 14
I’m in a similar situation, but it’s me who’s at uni.
We had to selct dates around when I wouldn’t be too busy (I’ll be in my third year by then so disertation time). We couldn’t get the date we really wanted in Oct at the venue we wanted but had a hard time chosing a different date (the venue was perfect)…we thought spring but by then I’ll be mad busy.
We ended up deciding a Jan wedding as I’ll be in holiday time. It does mean we’re having to sacrifice honeymoon till my next school holiday. To me that’s just something to look forward to…we might manage to have 2 nights away immediately after the wedding but no more than that 🙁
If it’s really important to have the honeymoon n wedding together then definitely change the date, if you can wait then it might be something really excting for you both to look forward to!
Goodluck, tough call!
Post # 15
I am in grad school, and our wedding will be in early June 2012, and we are considering holding off the honeymoon until after I take my oral PhD candidacy exam in August…may be good to wait until that hurdle is passed! I would much rather postpone the honeymoon than not have the wedding the time of year that I want!
Post # 16
We are waiting to have our honeymoon a whole year after we get married because my fiance is in grad school and will be doing his clinicals when we get married.