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Okay bees. I posted a few days ago about feeling like my grandparents won't make it to my wedding next year. It's a genuine concern, they are 76 and 80, respectively. So then I had a talk with my Dad this morning and he said "Do what feels right. I know that for you, if you feel like you at least did everything in your power to have them there, that will give you peace of mind." He's right. I don't feel like waiting 14 months is giving them that chance, logical or not.
So, would it be crazy to move my date up a lot? I already have my dress ordered and it should come in around May. We also aren't really looking at venues that will "fill up" very quickly. Thoughts? How soon is TOO soon? I haven't even decided if we'll do it or not, I just would love some unbiased feedback.
I think its plausible. I planned my wedding in Vancouver (where everything books up years in advance) and i did it in 9 months inclusive. :)
@SoontobeMrsA: I don't think I could manage quite that soon, so I'd be leaving my awesome theme for someone else.
We are planning ours in less than 8 months (got engaged in February getting married in September). It's totally do-able!
I say move it up if you want - I planning in 9 months and that was plenty of time..I could have knocked a few months off of that..
i planned my wedding in 5 months and it was beautiful!
we got engaged last july and really wanted a spring wedding so we didnt plan on waiting a year anyway - we found out my brother was going to afghanistan late february/early march (he left of wednesday this week) and it was really important for me to have him there so we planned it as far out as possible yet within the days he would still be in the states...well the dates kept changing and it was just about 5 months out when we found out for sure when he was leaving so february it was!
i think planning a wedding in a short time frame like that has its benefits..you dont have the time to stress as much over litte things..and you cant change your mind over and over. it worked for me! but im only one person.
My entire wedding is being planned in 6 months. It's been slightly stressful because my mom and FI keep changing everything that I wanted... but if I had my way... everything would have been done by now (1 month in).
I don't think you have to give up your theme! Just call it something different.
We planned ours in 4-1/2 months. We didn't intend for it to be that quick but things just lined up so we went with it. I much prefer being married than being engaged.
@totheislnds: I think you make a good point though. I'm already worried I'll over-think my wedding if it's as far out as it currently is. I'm glad it worked out for you! :)
@Miss Smashville & lauren810c & Baileyh: Thank you all. :) I didn't expect so much positive feedback for some reason! :)
@liciabelle: Ha, I think the same thing! My dress will be in in May. What else do I need? Lol
@troubled: I'm literally impressed. And you make a very good point. :)
Engaged in January, wedding in Sept--definitely do-able! We had originally thought of doing it next year (didn't think things would be available this year) but as we looked further into it we found that it was totally possible. If this year feels right, DO IT!!!
We planned a beautiful 130-person wedding in the NYC area in less than 5 months. And I was in Africa for a full month of that, meaning that effectively our planning was done in less than 4 months. Honestly, we could have done it in even less time. Having only a few months of wedding planning actually helped keep me sane, I thought. I didn't have time to obsess or second-guess decisions.
I say move your wedding up if that's what you want to do! You can totally do it.
You can for sure do it, and I love the fiesta theme! Fun doesn't happen on specific days of the year, it happens when you make it happen!
It can be done. If it is on your heart to do this for your grandparents, by all means do it. My FI passed a few months after we got engaged and his presence will surely be missed.
@AmeliaBedelia: oh for sure!! kepp your theme hands down. Just call it a fiesta theme now!! :)
@Miss Fish: Very good point. :)
@DeaconBride: I'm sorry to hear that. :/ FI's Gpa passed away 1.5 years ago on Christmas Day. I know it's rough.
We planned our wedding in 9 months, and that was plenty of time!
I'm going to plan mine in less than 6 months. Yeah, I kinda started early, but nothing is figured out except my dress which I should have by the end of March. And if bf is going to propose this weekend like I think he will (crosses fingers) Then we'll have an exact 6 month engagement :D
I think it'll be fun, because you get to have one fun summer planning, and then that's it. So we're not planning during any serious holidays, and the fam won't get tired out of hearing wedding planning. :)
totally! some vendors may already be booked up, but that i think is the only downside. we had a 9 month engagement and it was plenty of time; there were a couple months in the middle where there wasn't much i was doing at all, so we def could have had a shorter engagement
Yeah I planned in six months. Not too bad, and I really haven't had any help. I've pretty much done everything myself. It's a bit stressful, but definitely doable. I say go for it!!
We planned ours entirely long distance in 10 months (and it could have been shorter - we had multiple months of downtime in the middle where we did nothing).
If you feel that moving it up would be best, it is totally doable!
@Baileyh: I think that's an awesome idea! Without the bee (You and SoonToBeMrsA) I would have just let me theme go. :D Makes me happier.
I think this may be the right way to go. Now FI and I need to sit down and hammer out the details and if we think this can work. Thanks again bees! Anyone have advice specifically for planning in a short amount of time?
I like the fiesta theme! Just as fun as cinco de mayo. And you can definitely plan it in less time. We planned ours in 3 months and it's been completely doable, although I wouldn't recommend such a short time for most folks. We have been working like CRAZY to get everything done and it's coming together beautifully, but another month or 2 would probably be ideal.
@pinkpaperbride: So you think 5 months is plenty? And yeah I'm super happy that I can keep the theme without the date (I think it goes to show how creative I am not, lol).
@AmeliaBedelia: Yes, but if you're moving up your date by that much you need to be really detailed and on top of things. I would start by making an extensive list of EVERY SINGLE THING you need. I thought about every stage of the day, every part of the building from ceremony to reception, and have been checking stuff of daily and drinking lots of red bull (for example, when they walk in before the ceremony, where does the sign in go? do I have pens, signage, vase/decoration for the table? what about gift table? any decoration for that? where will the programs go? small, specific details in addition to bigger stuff like bouquets, linens and vendors). The more organized you are, the more feasible to have a shorter planning period. I used to coordinate weddings for a venue (like 2-3 a weekend) so I feel pretty comfortable with my grasp of what all needs to get done (even though I'm sure I'll still forget things!), but you may want to search online for a checklist or grab one of those wedding planning binders/books to help you stay organized and keep from missing anything. Or maybe you have a planner or DOC! In which case, start sharing that workload!
I would definitely move it up! Not only because of your grandparents, but I hate having a long engagement! Ours will be 14 months once we get married and I am now wishing it would have been much shorter! I'm just so ready for planning to be over!
@AmeliaBedelia: I planned ours in about 8 mos and I thought it was MORE than enough time.
I think if you're moving it up do the following:
1) Find a venue (available dates may be limited on short notice so let this determine your timeline)
2) Create a calendar backtracking on when final numbers need to be to the caterer, when RSVPS should be due and when invites need to go out. From there also figure out when you need to order invitations (probably relatively soon).
3) Be decisive. The nice thing about having LESS time is that you don't have time to overthink every decision. You can just decide and move on.
We moved ours up for the same reason. My grandmother ended up dying 3 weeks before the wedding....and her ash scattering/funeral was, I kid you not, the morning after our wedding, since all the family was in town. It was a huge, stressful, sad nightmare to be honest. Do what you want with your wedding, but understand that it may have unintended downsides.
@camrie: That was really helpful, thanks. :) I think it'll actually help me personally because I hate over-thinking things. So would you say 6 months is kind of the best amount of time?
@crayfish: Oh wow. I understand that that would be very difficult (and I'm sorry for your loss). I think what my Dad said though is so right - I need to feel like I tried.
@pinkpaperbride: Hm. I used to cater weddings, but never planned one. My MOH is a pro though, so that may help. We already have that handy-dandy notebook of lists (ha) and it's not as overwhelming as I thought since it breaks everything down for me.
I think we may shoot for September, if FI says it's a go. That's about 6 months from now.
I planned my wedding in 6 months. I think you can totally do it!
We planned our wedding in 9 months and it was beautiful. I of course kept complaining I was running out of time the couple of days before the wedding, but now I don't regret it at all!
We sorta did it this year too because of our grandparents. Good luck!
@AmeliaBedelia: Yes I think any less than that and you might end up without a lot of vendors available - but 6 mos is probably fine if you've already ordered your dress and have figured out a few venues you'd like.
Organization is key but 6 mos isn't crazy. Just make sure to start contacting caterers/photographers/bakeries immediately to secure their services.
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