Oh, Megs08, hang in there! It may seem hard to grasp all the changes right now, but likely, you’re in a better place than before; otherwise, you wouldn’t have moved…Congrats on finding a new job! Your FI will find something soon!
To relate: we got engaged in May, J quit his job and started med school in August, the stress from my own job made me literally sick and lose weight during the fall/winter, I quit my job in January on the leap of faith I was going to get my dream job in Feb. and didn’t…And I’ve been using this time to regroup, regain my sanity and health, and figure out what’s next, and plan my dream wedding! Yesterday, I just learned that the person they hired for my dream job didn’t pan out, and they offered me a job! So, in two weeks time, I will have a new job to contend with as well! Our wedding is the end of May, as well! Big changes, indeed!
What makes your situation that much bigger and harder is that you’re in a new place to boot, AND you’re distance-planning your wedding…
To address the first part, I would recommend finding places/people doing things you enjoy. Are you a crafter? Join a class at a local store. Do you have a dog? Go to the nearest dog park and meet people, saying you’re new to the area. Do you have/want a faith community? Let everyone there know that you’re new to town, and plenty of people will offer to have you over for dinner and make you feel welcome. More than anything, a new place can be isolating and make all the other stressors feel that much more like big beasty monsters. Tackle the isolation, and you’ll feel so much better! [You’re living with your brother, right? Well, at least you can lean on them while you’re adjusting, too…]
Regarding the second, planning your wedding when you’re nowhere near the location is very hard! Rely on anyone who is in OH (I’m assuming your parents?) to work out the small stuff and keep you posted on the progress. I’m also assuming that the big things (like vendors) are all decided, so rest assured that those pieces are all in place, and you’re that much closer to having a terrific wedding!
And remember there is an end to all the madness. Your FI will have a job. You both will adjust. The wedding stuff will be done in two months. You will find a place of your own, and you will always have each other. If you can just hold on for these last few weeks, you’re going to be great! Best wishes as you sort through everything!