Moving away and getting engaged

posted 2 years ago in Proposals
Post # 2
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129 posts
Blushing bee

I’d say talk to him about your concerns, but try to word it not in an ultimatum way. I always say that if this is a guy you’re considering marrying now, you should be able to be completely honest with your feelings. If not, reconsider if he’s the one.

Post # 4
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129 posts
Blushing bee

Have you worked on a plan as to how and when you’ll see each other?

Fi and I were LD at first, 5.5 hours (we met out of town as we both worked with teens and were at a summer camp kind of thing). We just worked out a plan to meet up or he’d stay in my town a few days at a time. I was able to do the same where he is, though sounds like you don’t have that option. Skype was our best friend. 

Post # 5
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Instead of posing the questions to us, why not ask your BF? Sure, he may not bat an eye at talking about marriage or looking at rings but if you do not tell him you want to get engaged before he leaves, he probably will not do so. Guys are terrible at mind reading.

Be honest and direct and see where that goes. No one here can tell you what will *REALLY* happen, despite our best attempts. Good luck!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

Rosa86:  My now DH and I moved to Vietnam together when we were bf and gf and had been together a year and a half. We had discussed marriage and were clearly headed there but with a generic ‘by age 29’ (4 year from then) timeline. We got engaged while we were there to my happy surprise, and moved in together there.

Sure it’s a gamble but if you’ve had the marriage talk a lot and seem to be on the same book, and he’s a trustworthy and reliable man, it’ll be a great adventure living overseas together 🙂

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