Post # 1
I am moving out of state with my FI as he has been accepted into a PhD program. This has been a possibility for awhile and it just became ‘official’ so I’ve had to tell famly and friends. It’s hard, I won’t lie, thinking about moving away from everyone and my hometown, where I’ve lived my whole life (I’m 28!). Some have been supportive, some have been very sad and upset. My bestfriend told me she was crying (she might still be) and my other friend sent me a response that said “I am happy for you if this is what you want but I am so, so sad.” I don’t know if I’m just over thinking her response…like the ‘if this is what you want’ part really irritated me. Did I take it the wrong way?
Anyway…Any bees who have moved away for the first time to be with their fiance/husband? How did you handle the move?
Post # 3
Be strong! This is truly what you want and you should go for it!
Moving to be with a grad school-bound partner is not easy, but for my friends it’s been worth it. One great thing about PhD programs is that they’re finite. You won’t be there forever and, with a little luck, you can even move back to your area of origin once his program is done–if that’s what you want.
Tell your family and friends that they can always Skype, visit, or even write you letters. The wonders of modern technology make anything possible. Good luck!
Post # 4
It’s hard at first but sooo rewarding. You’ll get closer and it’s really awesome to get away from family for a while.
Post # 5
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@bridgetdarling: I think you are over-thinking your friend’s response. I have a friend that’s moving to Utah in a few months and it’s hard to figure out what to say to her — I’m happy FOR her but I’m not happy that I’m probably not going to see her all that often again.
Post # 6
Moving away means starting a new chapter. This will be you and your FI, a chance to really make it on your own!
I moved from Chicago to Hawaii to get away from my ex. My best friend was already here at school, so I just moved in with her.
My FI and I met here. We honestly couldn’t be happier, being our own people and creating a new life together that separate from anything else we’d known before. Now we’re considering moving back, or maybe moving somewhere else where we can start fresh. Once that Fresh Start adrenaline kicks in, it’s hard to get rid of.
It will work out for you, I promise! You will definitely get home sick, but the awesome thing about this day and age is that the world is much smaller than it used to be and friends and family are a text away.
Post # 7
@cooperlove: I’ve definitely heard that it could help us bond together as a couple by several people! It’s still gonna be hard though.
@ArtDecoDC: You are right, our plan is to move back afterwards, in 3 years. But it’s hard to say for sure bc we have no idea what the job market will be like! If it could be definite it would make me feel so much better!
@JackiBean: You are definitely right about the world being smaller and i’m trying to convince my dad to get an iphone so we can facetime (he has a flip phone…) I hope it will work out! It’s just hard/sad to leave.