(Closed) Moving away…and waiting

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Hostess
18646 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

It’s great that he is being so supportive of you!  It sounds like he is serious and I’m sure that being apart will make him realize that he doesn’t want to be apart from you!

Post # 4
Member
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

From personal experience, I completely feel for you! I had the same situation; once with Mr. Wrong and once with Mr. Right! Mr. Wrong didn’t understand it, even when I broke down in tears on the way to my new home. Mr. Right (sounds like your guy) totally gets it, and we are engaged, even though I’m halfway across the world. He made sure to make his intentions very clear before I left. Fortunately, I will return back to where we will marry, but I may have made other decisions and plans for my life had he not asked me to marry him.

Have you had this conversation with him lately (like in the last 30 days)? It’s not too forward to inquire about a “suitable timeframe” to be engaged. If there is ONE thing I’ve learned (and I’ve goofed up more than succeeded) it’s to say exactly what you want, so that there are NO misunderstandings about the issue. Waiting around for a ring these days is just silly when it seems like the two of you have future plans. If he’s waiting for enough money to buy a diamond – stop the presses and wear a fake ring. The important thing is the commitment, IMHO.

You don’t have to be bossy or whiney – just be very “up front” – “So sweetheart, about when should we plan on getting engaged? I’d like to do it before XXX date so that we can plan.” Something like that. Marriage is a matter of the heart, but it also contains elements of logistics, and your relationship will change once you move – that’s just the way it is. Stating your commitment up front will solidfy the bond you already have and will color your plans for the future.

Good luck. I’m sending you sunshine and hugs!

Post # 5
Member
592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Congrats about getting your dream job. I wish you a happy first day tomorrow!

Your SO sounds wonderful to be so supportive. It’s amazing to be with a guy who totally understands that you are an individual person with goals and he will stand by you while you work towards achieving them!

I’m sure you guys will be engaged soon – in the mean time enjoy this wonderful new experience.

Post # 7
Member
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Miss Emily Marie: EXCELLENT! You have great taste in men, apparently! So now we wait…I can’t stand it!

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