Post # 1
Well Bees, I’m moving away from SO and our puppy today 🙁 and starting my dream job tomorrow. This morning when I was cuddling with pup I was thinking about how grateful I am that I have had this wonderful relationship and how supportive my SO is to encourage me to accept my dream job even though it meant moving away and only getting to see him twice a month instead of everyday. This also means he has to completely care for our puppy frankie without help. And he STILL encouraged me to take the job, do what I love and told me that we would be getting engaged soon and
would get an apartment together (in a city between our jobs) as soon as we get married (we have talked about getting married fall of next year). But in the back of my mind is the little wedding voice wishing we were engaged before I left. That I had a more tangible sign of how serious our relationship is. I know it’s coming and I have been really good about not whining about getting engaged or married. I feel like I’m starting my life away from him instead of with him. I know what our relationship means but after 6 years I feel so stupid calling him my boyfriend…
Post # 3
It’s great that he is being so supportive of you! It sounds like he is serious and I’m sure that being apart will make him realize that he doesn’t want to be apart from you!
Post # 4
From personal experience, I completely feel for you! I had the same situation; once with Mr. Wrong and once with Mr. Right! Mr. Wrong didn’t understand it, even when I broke down in tears on the way to my new home. Mr. Right (sounds like your guy) totally gets it, and we are engaged, even though I’m halfway across the world. He made sure to make his intentions very clear before I left. Fortunately, I will return back to where we will marry, but I may have made other decisions and plans for my life had he not asked me to marry him.
Have you had this conversation with him lately (like in the last 30 days)? It’s not too forward to inquire about a “suitable timeframe” to be engaged. If there is ONE thing I’ve learned (and I’ve goofed up more than succeeded) it’s to say exactly what you want, so that there are NO misunderstandings about the issue. Waiting around for a ring these days is just silly when it seems like the two of you have future plans. If he’s waiting for enough money to buy a diamond – stop the presses and wear a fake ring. The important thing is the commitment, IMHO.
You don’t have to be bossy or whiney – just be very “up front” – “So sweetheart, about when should we plan on getting engaged? I’d like to do it before XXX date so that we can plan.” Something like that. Marriage is a matter of the heart, but it also contains elements of logistics, and your relationship will change once you move – that’s just the way it is. Stating your commitment up front will solidfy the bond you already have and will color your plans for the future.
Good luck. I’m sending you sunshine and hugs!
Post # 5
Congrats about getting your dream job. I wish you a happy first day tomorrow!
Your SO sounds wonderful to be so supportive. It’s amazing to be with a guy who totally understands that you are an individual person with goals and he will stand by you while you work towards achieving them!
I’m sure you guys will be engaged soon – in the mean time enjoy this wonderful new experience.
Post # 6
Thanks for the support Ladies! I am so lucky to have such a wonderful man!
@lisalew5472: we have talked a lot about getting married and engaged. He has asked my parents. We are hoping for a late summer or fall wedding of next year and we have said that we want at least a year to plan the wedding so it HAS to be sometime SOON!
Post # 7
@Miss Emily Marie: EXCELLENT! You have great taste in men, apparently! So now we wait…I can’t stand it!