- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2010
Ok – so a little back ground on the whole situation:
My FI and I have been dating for about three and a half years; we got engaged in July; my mother doesn’t like him because he is black; my entire family has written me off because I have decided to be his wife first and their neice, cousin, whatever second; I have not spoken to my mother since mother’s day; I rent a house from my step-dad – who is married to my mother; oh and my mother is drama queen crazy.
Those are the little details which hopefully will explain this posting.
We had originally thought we would have to move in to an apartment or house other then the one I’m living in, which my step-dad owns because my mother is crazy and she is full of drama and likes to make his life a living hell and I figured she would convince him to kick me and her grandchild out of the house if I were to get married. In talking to my step-dad he said that I rent from him and not her and we could stay there as long as we want to pay the rent (we are moving to Nashville for work at some point late in June).
This was an answered prayer! The house is three bedrooms and the rent is $1000 a month! How awesome would it be to just move his small amount of crap in to my house full of crap?
Well, I knew the FI wasn’t as excited about it as I was, but he never really said anything and he would have moved in if I had said that was what we were going to do. But then Saturday happened. My step-dad was over at the house ALL day puttering around the yard, tinkering with things and just there. Not that I mind it, it’s his house and all, but really? I couldn’t do anything I really wanted – like open my bedroom drapes and air the room out because I was in my house clothes and those do not include undergarments and it was just strange, though I can’t explain just how it was.
So, I decided that I would call the complex the FI is living in now and see if they had any two bedrooms open and let that be the deciding factor. Guess what? They do! They have two open, they are both upstairs and they have patios! (we looked at one in the same complex this summer that was down staris on the street with no patio)
When I told FI he said that he would talk to them and figure out the costs of moving him in and all of that and he said something even more imporatant and telling. He made a comment that while it would be great to live in the house I’m in now, and while my step-dad says it is ok today, what is to say that he won’t change his mind in the next 3 months or so?
So now, that we have it planned that we are going to move, I HAVE to get off my booty and start going through the 10 years of crap that has found it’s way in to my house and get it ready to sell, throw away or give away.
Once we are moved, we will be able to get our budget put in place and our date set! THAT is the best thing out of all of this maddness!
Anyone else have anything happen that just puts you that much closer to your goal?