Post # 1
I’ve been engaged for about a month, and in a long distance relationship for a few years. The distance isn’t too far (about a 2 hour – 2.5 hour drive) and I will be the one moving when we get married. The thought of me moving is exciting and nervewracking at the same time but my mom is making me feel guilty for moving. She says that I am leaving her and claims that we will never see eachother. She loves my fiance and knows that we’re meant for eachother (and I think she is still getting used to the idea that I am growing up) but she is driving me crazy with her very blunt comments. I’m trying to remain positive for the sake of our relationship aher relationship with my fiance but shes now cauing me anxiety and making me feel guilting for falling in love and wanting to grow up. Any advice on how to make this process easier on her?
Post # 3
First of all, it’s unacceptable that she’s laying this guilt trip on you. Sure, she’s going to miss you, however her behavior is selfish. It may behoove you to gently let her know that you’re not a little girl anymore. You love and cherish her and the bond you have. And that isn’t going away just because you’re physically moving. You’re not leaving her, you’re going towards your future. It’s about you, not her. Maybe a suggestion of a regular visit would help ease her mind. Good luck.
Post # 4
@ellem: I feel your pain. My mom gets like this with me. I am moving in with my boyfriend this weekend and she acts like I am going to forget about her. I’m moving 20 minutes away, by the way, and she is still acting like this. Just be strong because you know what you’re doing is the right step for you. I’m sure she is sad to see you go and makes comments about it, but she just wants to hear you say how you are going to miss her too. You have to do this for you and moms know this they just don’t like to let go.
Post # 5
My mum is super opinionated and I just moved 8 hours away from her with my husband. In the end I just stopped listening, did what I wanted and now she’s fine with it haha
Post # 6
my mom is like this whenever I move ANYWHERE. ‘Oh, I’m never going to see you again! It won’t ever be the same!’ I like to point out: 1) all the restaurants in little towns between us to meet for supper 2) when I lived at home we weren’t together all the time anyway because we both have lives and 3) OF COURSE I will always be her little girl! Sheesh! Does she think I would give up x, y, and z awesome part about being in her family? I try to point out the next time we will see each other so she has a concrete date to look forward to, and that seems to help.