Post # 1
My fiance and I just moved into a newly purchased home this past weekend and everything up until this past week has been smooth sailing. My fiance is 23 years old and has never lived away from home. He did not go away to college and is moving from his parents’ home to our new home. He told me this is going to be a big change for him and it will take some getting used to. Which I completely understand, I am moving from my childhood home to this new house (however I went away for school). However, he seems more nervous than excited. I am a bit nervous to live together too, but I am so excited to start this new adventure. His feelings are making me feel like he doesn’t want to live with me… I don’t think that’s true, but I really want to him be more excited and happy than sad and nervous.
Any advice or tips on how to make this transition more comfortable for him?
Post # 3
Just give him time, it’s a big change for him. He is having to get used to not only being away from the only home he knows but living with someone he has never lived with. I remember when my husband and I first moved in together (just dating at that time) and we went through some rough times. Being in each others space is a big change. Make sure he knows he can talk to you about things that are bothering him. Once my husband and I were able to talk to each other about the things that were bothering us it helped so much. It was tough to talk about because we didn’t want to hurt each others feelings but it showed us what we needed to work on to make this thing work.
Post # 4
It has nothing to do with not wanting to live with you. He is just nervous, and this all very new. He is still used to his ol norm-living at home. He will develop a new normal of being at home with you. Just give it some time.
Post # 5
I bet he’s worried about finances. Not saying he’s in a bad situation or that you aren’t helping, but guys are raised to think it is their sole responsiblity to care for the family etc. So imagine what it’s like to make that first step toward being totally responsible for the ones you love.
Post # 6
Thanks for the advice. I know this is a big change… I just don’t want to be walking on eggshells, because I’m so excited and happy and he’s so nervous and homesick.