Post # 1
Booked my movers and a storage unit today. YIKES! It’s getting real, bees!!!
I just sold my condo & we’re going to live in FI’s “mancave” until we buy a new place. Hopefully we’ll be there just a couple months max. It’s a seller’s market in Chicago which was awesome for me on the sale side but not so awesome for us on the buy side. But we can afford to be patient & rent at FI’s until we find a great place and a great deal.
So the fun begins of consolidating our things! He has lived in his apt for the last 7 years so he’s never gotten rid of most of his college crap (oh my he has so much crap….) plus a lot of randomness like homebrewing equipment that he hasn’t used in years and other random whatnots. I’m a minimalist so all of his stuff kind of makes me anxious but I figure I agreed to a slightly oversize storage unit for what we will actually need so we can put some of his stuff there if he’s not ready to completely part with it yet.
Any tips from those of you who have been through the joining of households?
Post # 3
@k8: We’ve been living together for a few months in his “man cave” and are currently packing up to move to our new place together! I basically just moved my stuff in & found places for it but he didn’t start getting rid of things until this move.
My man also had lots of college stuff and there were boxes just everywhere. Even the “nightstand” on my side of the bed was actually 2 boxes stacked up. I told him starting in the new place, boxes aren’t furniture anymore for the rest of his life 😛
I like your idea of getting a storage unit for a bit. If he’s starting to sort through things to make room for you, he’ll end up doing the same when you move together. I think doing it in stages is less traumatic!
Post # 4
@MexiPino: using boxes as a makeshift nightstand for the time being is a genius idea – I will be borrowing that idea for sure for the intermediate future!
Also I’m glad to hear that he started actually moving things out when you moved in. I’ve been trying to encourage him over the past couple weeks but now it’s crunch time. It makes me really nervous to be on the cusp of moving in!
Post # 5
When I moved in with my fiance I found out he kept a lot of crap that I would never keep! He had old wedding napkins, wedding invitations, birthday cards, thank you cards etc. While I think it is adorable that he keeps these little momentos, it didnt stop there and there was literally useless crap laying around everywhere. What I did was I went through some things with him. We went through his closet, office and room and I would ask him if he has ever used/seen the particular item I had in my hand in the last year and if he said no, I asked him if he could part with it. I would used the angle of “if you havent seen this in a yr, you are never going to use it or even know you have it next yr.” I also had him go through things of mine while I threw stuff away because I didnt want him to feel like he was the only one getting rid of things. I found out it as all about communication. He was really rational and most of the stuff he didnt even remember he had. Good Luck! Combining things is fun but it takes some work and communication!