- 5 years ago
My SO has asked me to move in with him, as he owns his own house, which I really want to do because I love him very much. However, there’s been some complications along the way and it’s been a long process, we’re now going into the 4th month. Part of the problem is that he had his father living with him, well off him; and it has taken him until last weekend to finally move out. He also has his step-brother renting a room off him, so there is a grace period for his step-brother to move into the bigger room that his dad has now vacated, which they’ve estimated that his will take about two weeks. We also need to build some outdoor enclosures for my two rabbits and another for my cats. He’s already given me keys to the house (in a really unflattering way), but I’ve not moved anything of mine in at all.
My problem at this stage is that I’m having doubts about moving in with him now and I can’t figure out if they are true doubts or just cold feet. My problem is that I’m currently unemployed. I left my fulltime job at the end of February because it was 12 hour shifts on a 24/7 rotating roster and was playing havoc with my depression/anxiety. It was honestly a nightmare and my SO was very supportive in me leaving this job because he could see how miserable it was making me. I’ve been looking for part-time work since then (part-time because I start to study in June) but I keep getting told I’m “over qualified” for admin assistant roles/receptionist/retail etc… it’s beyond frustrating and I’m trying really hard to not let it get to me. I’m scared that if I move in with him and am still finding a really hard to find a job that he’ll start to resent me and look at me as though I’m just replacing his father and living off him. I don’t want to come off as a moocher. Another thing which is making me anxious is that he has never lived with a gf before, he’s 27yo and I’m 25yo. I lived with my ex of 4yrs for about 2.5yrs so I know what to expect in some ways, but he has no idea.
I know I need to talk to him about this and I plan to tomorrow, but I just wanted some Bee advice please!