(Closed) Moving on after the loss of a pet.

posted 5 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@BoxerLady:  Ugh, I know!  Everytime I come on the pet threads I wind up crying :'(

 

Sorry I don’t have any advice, I’ve only lost one family pet and my parents didn’t tell me they were going to put her down…. so that wasn’t your usual situation.

 

I have a cat right now and we’re looking into adopting again very soon so I think about this often.  Very interested to see what everyone else says.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@BoxerLady:  That’s the thread I was on too!  That Perfect Day idea, I love Jon Katz!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve had a lot of cats through the decades, and while it’s always hard when one dies, I have found that it helps to go be around other animals – either visit the animal shelter, or the adoption room at Petco, or even friends with animals. I usually wait a little while before getting a new cat, but not too long, lest I realize that thrice-daily feedings and box scoopings are actually a fair amount of work.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It took years before we could get our new doggies after our dog we had for almost 13 years died. I miss him so much, but thinking about the good times helps πŸ™‚ and it’s always a good thing knowning that you’ve adopted (and possibly saved the lives of) another dog! dogs have different personalities, so it’s not like you are “replacing” him or her!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We put our 15-year-old lab down last year (she was mine in middle/high school, but eventually lived with my parents after I moved out). It was so hard, especially for my mother. She mourned Sadie for months and months. They had had 2 dogs, but the other had already passed a few months prior. Finally, I felt like she needed something to fill the void and I surprised her with a rescue pup (about 2 yrs old). This was back in December and she is now so much happier. I think getting Lucy has helped her move on from Sadie. She even went out and got Lucy a little brother – Gary the chihuahua, haha.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@BoxerLady:  i had my pit bull female for 13 years (i write this with tears in my eyes) ive owned a few pets in my time but she was very special its been 2 years since she has passed away and im still not over her passing. it gets easier over time the hurt stings less but i miss her more and more ive even dreamed of her letting me know shes happy and waiting for me thats the feeling i get when i have dreamed of her. i have a new dog and i love my new pet but no pet will ever replace my Duchess. i have struggled to move on she was like my child to me.

i love her so much!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I never lost a pet, and I’m struggling with that idea myself. My first dog is now 19 years old, he is very old, we barely walks, but still eats well and is playfull… but he is 19! He will eventually die, and I think it will be very hard on me.

Even harder will be the lost of my cat, she’s like a fury best friend that is always there to confort me, she sleeps with me, follows me through the house… so, I guess her lose will be even harder :O

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@BoxerLady: thank you! i do struggle when i think of her she went thru so much with me a life time of changes but she was always there. i cried for weeks after i had to put her down and i stayed when they did put her down she layed on my lap and i rubbed her head and told her i loved her and that we would be together again. i stayed to the very end. the vet said alot of people dont stay. and i said she was not going to be left by me in her final hour i was the last person she saw with loving eyes. i was a mess after that but i dont regret it. thank God FH was there for me and my family she was a family dog it hurt us all but me the most i got her when she was 12 weeks old. i want to get another mixed pit when we get a home FH and i both do he loved her too he only new her for about 7 months it broke his heart when she passed.

 

i still have her things tags, collar, leash i just cant give them up. 

 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Collie of 9 yrs passed in November. It was hard and I still cry daily, I had her since she was 8 weeks. She had a tumor removed & it was cancerous. Passed in my arms but i whispered to her, she could leave me the night before. she was terminally ill and hanging on for us. Pets ill do that. Fluid kept coming back in lungs after draining and she would eat but then not eat. we went the natural route of treatment, changing diet which works but she was too weak. I’m still mourning, and it was too quiet in the house… so we adopted 4 weeks after her. (Everyone is different when morning or amount of time for new pet) She’s still my baby and I think of her daily. I know I have more love to share so FI and I adopted.

 

We love our new addition so much. She brings joys daily and I have so many memories of missy. We talk about her all the time, she was my pet but turned into a family pet then my FI’s best friend. Always in the heart πŸ™‚ It takes time but they will always be FAMILY. New puppy is total opposite of Missy, in dirt digging in yard. Loves To socialize and I love her for her own personality. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@HisNightOwl2014:  I created a shadow box with leash, tags and pictures. I feel you on loving your Baby. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I lost a pet back when I was in my freshman year of college and I was devestated. My mom didn’t really wanna tell me at first because she knew I was gearing up for finals and didn’t want me to be distracted but I teared it out of her. I was so hurt and cried and pretty much missed handing in my paper for my final due to it. Luckily my professor understood but it took me a couple years until I got a new dog. My parents didn’t want any more dogs but when my friends dog was having puppies and her dad was willing to give me one I just knew I had to have one. Of course no dog will ever replace the one you lost. He is actually the same kind of dog I had previously but I just remember all the good times I had with my first dog and definitely try to treasure all the memories I have with Scoobs. He is definitely like my kid – I scream at him like he is one haha! I wish dogs lived as long as us too! 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

This is such a hard thing! I honestly don’t know. I lost my childhood poodle almost a year ago and I am not at all over it. She was my best friend and (being an only child) like my sister. I think, like a PP said that staggering the purchases and introductions of new pets helps. I still have 2 dogs and so it’s not an empty house but it doesn’t mean that I have felt the loss any less. (Amazingly, the 2 dogs haven’t once tried to sleep or even lay in the basket that all 3 used to love. It’s interesting to see the change in them since my poodle passed.)

I also had 3 cats growing up, and purchased another not long before the last one passed. It doesn’t make it easier to get over the loss but it means that you always have a companion.

For me, having I guess what you could call ‘a constant turnover’ of pets is really good. After losing my poodle I kind of vowed never to have a dog again because the loss is so hard, but I already have the other two dogs and my cat so I can’t escape it! If I hadn’t had the other two the house would have felt very lonely and any new dog would feel like a replacement.

It is so difficult knowing that you one day will have to deal with their death and any illnesses, but I think the years of joy and laughter and companionship far outweigh the amount of pain caused by them leaving and that’s what I try to focus on and remember.

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