Moving out now or later

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What should FI and I do?
    Stay at home and go with the more logical choice : (28 votes)
    88 %
    Leave and struggle financially, but be more fulfilled emotionally : (4 votes)
    13 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I completely understand the need to want to move out! FI and I decided to buy a house last summer so we could move out of our parents houses when we were 20 and 21. Now we kinda wish we would have stayed until we graduated (few months later) and started our jobs so we could have had a much bigger, nicer, newer house. It’s been awesome having our own place, but we both agreed the wiser thing financially would have been to wait a couple months. There are always things that come up to and need money. I would save so you guys can buy a house when you’re done instead of renting. I know it’s hard but it won’t be for too long and you’ll be in a more comfortable position in the end. Easier said than done, I know!

    Post # 5
    Member
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MissMonie:  I don’t necessarily regret it because it has been nice having our own place and my FI ended up getting a really good job about 6 months after we bought it so that was nice. I think I just compare our house and lifestyle to our friends who are older and didn’t go to college so they’ve just been working for awhile and have more money now so better houses, etc. We just decided to stay in our starter house longer so we can save more for next time. Does the place you’re renting furnished and include utilities? Those are things that really added up for us. Also do you have savings in case your car just breaks down all of the sudden? I made this huge budget spreadsheet before we bought a house to make sure we could cover all necessities and then have emergency money. Our parents would help us in a heartbeat though if we had any problems so that helps too. Good luck!

    Post # 6
    Member
    557 posts
    Busy bee

    stay home as long as you can! You have 60+ years to live on your own and deal with juggling finances, etc. It sounds really great to grow up and have all your own responsibility…but good lord there are a lot of responsibilities…and you are still SO young!

    I stayed at home until about 25…my parents were amazing though. I love them very much, they never asked any questions and totally gave me my space.

    Post # 7
    Member
    31 posts
    Newbee

    There aint nothing wrong living with parents to save money. The people who have a problem with this or would bash you for this, are just jealous that their parents never gave them the offer! 🙂

     

     

    Post # 8
    Member
    2562 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    FI and I moved in together, but now, as we’re paying for this wedding ourselves but want to buy a house soon, we’ve moved in to the second floor of his mom’s house to help save money faster.

    Not that we couldn’t keep up with the apartment rent, but we’d be looking at waiting 3x as long to buy a home. So we remodelled the upstairs and instead of rent, we’ll be paying her utilities. It’s honestly not the ideal situation, but we do what we have to do (let me tell you, living in a house with someone else’s mom is AWKWARD)

    Oh, and upstairs is basically an apartment, just without cooking applicances. We have our own fridge, and that’s totally something you can do – get a smaller mini or apartment-sized fridge (or one for each place) and don’t be afraid to stock it up with things you’d like to eat.

    Stick it out, make it work – the savings is more than worth it in the long run.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @MissMonie:  I can entirely see why you want to move out and have your own space, but I given my time around again I would have stayed and saved. So that’s what I voted for. I don’t REGRET moving out, but it would have much much easier to save money

    Post # 10
    Member
    845 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @MissMonie:  I haven’t lived with my parents full time (only for a couple summers) since I was 18 – and it is a very significant financial burden. I live alone in an apartment 3 hours from my parents and 2 hours from my FI, and although I have a good-paying job, I always fantasize about what I could do with that extra money if I didn’t have to pay rent. My FI lives with his parents and lived with them through university (it was just down the road) and he has had a significantly easier time with money than me. Neither of our loans were massive but his was much smaller than mine and he paid it off in a couple months because he could put so much income toward it, while I have to pay mine in much smaller increments. He also was able to buy the ring he wanted to give me because he was able to save. Certain things bother me, like how his parents are around alllllll the time, but it’s only every few weekends that I’m there anyway. We will hopefully be moving in together this year too so it’s not like it’s forever. Lastly I want to mention that I was guilty of trying to make him move out on his own before I graduated (he finished school a year ahead of me) – until I moved into the real world and bought a car. Then I was like, I’m glad you didn’t listen to me.

    You’re so young! Don’t worry about what others think. Saving money is honestly so important and you won’t regret it… it will make your future so much easier.

    Post # 11
    Member
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You don’t want your first place to take up 50% of your income in rent alone, trust me. Stay at home until you’re married and/or have stable jobs and incomes that aren’t government provided.

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